Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To get these boys turned out in cool, wet weather?

7 replies

Mimishimi · 02/03/2013 06:35

This morning (it's Saturday here in Australia), I noticed two men sleeping in the garage directly next to us. They were covered by a heavy but clean looking blanket. The garages are under the building, they all have metal doors and are seperated by wire grills. The metal door on this garage was closed but I could see through the grill whilst I was getting into the car. I was a bit surprised and started to wonder if perhaps the Gujarati neighbours downstairs (it's their garage) had imported labour from India and were making them sleep there Blush. I contacted DH who said to call the police but I thought that was a bit drastic. There had been a police raid earlier in the week and a bunch of Sri Lankan refugees on bridging visas (so waiting for their refugee status to be approved) were evicted from a house a few streets away because it had not been council approved as a boarding house and one of them had sexually assaulted a girl at nearby university accommodation whilst visiting a friend (who was also being housed by the university as part of their refugee accommodation program which has now been stopped because of this incident). It occurred to me that they might be from that house and they had nowhere to go so I just left them sleeping.

Anyway, I came back with DS about an hour and a half later and noticed they were gone but their mattress was still on the floor and the blanket had been tucked into an open wardrobe. This made me think even more that the neighbours probably did know about them. I left it at that and came upstairs. A few hours later again, in the early afternoon, I went down again with DD to clean out the trunk of the car. The men were back, sleeping on the mattress again. This time, I decided to just ask the neighbours so I popped up backstairs with DD and knocked on their door. The grandmother doesn't really speak English but the mum does a bit and the grandson, who has been attending school here for years, does. The mum said she didn't know about it and all three came downstairs. They opened the garage and woke the men up. They were not Indian at all - had a completely Aussie accent - but weren't Anglo - maybe partially Pacific Islander but not huge. Wasn't sure. They were young - maybe late teens or early twenties- and looked tired. Their accents were rough but they didn't sound like bad lads IYKWIM. They apologised and said they were looking for somewhere dry to sleep. It has been raining heavily all week here. I know the neighbours never park their car in the garage and they probably don't lock it either. They were quite nice to them - just said "Well, you'll have to go now" and the boys moved off with their blanket and mattress.

I'm feeling bad because it is still raining quite heavily and I knew the neighbours don't use the garage. I didn't have to tell them. At the same time, if someone knew that strangers were sleeping in my garage, I would also prefer to be told. Was it unreasonable not to help them? I would have no idea who to contact for emergency accommodation and am by myself at the moment (DH is overseas).

OP posts:
ben5 · 02/03/2013 06:39

salvation army? food banks? they might have some contact details

DeepRedBetty · 02/03/2013 06:41

You weren't U to talk to neighbours about their presence and it's not U to feel sorry for these two lads, but since DH is away and you've got DS to think about, and these boys look like they're young, healthy and resourceful, I'd leave them to it.

HollyBerryBush · 02/03/2013 06:58

I'd have asked if they were backpacking or runaways (pacific islanders can look a lot older than they really are), or whether they'd run out of holiday money, whether they needed to call their parents/family. I'd have probably fed them as well. But I can be a bit of a people fixer.

Out of curiosity - what would you have done had they been girls?

Mimishimi · 02/03/2013 07:02

If they had been girls, I probably would have invited them in. At least for a cup of tea and something to eat.

OP posts:
HollyBerryBush · 02/03/2013 07:08

Why are girls safer than boys?

I feel quite sad that strangers would view my sons as 'dangerous' or 'unsafe'. Sad and wouldnt help them in that situation purely based on gender.

Possiblyoutedled · 02/03/2013 07:12

Me too holly what a shame.

nilbyname · 02/03/2013 07:36

I think you did the right thing but perhaps the offer of some food, the use of the phone/internet etc would have been more charitable. However, these are the kind of situations that can rattle us and leave us going "I should have done this/that..." Easy for us to comment on it now, Smile

New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Swipe left for the next trending thread