Probably just need to rant...

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And I probably am being unreasonable but seriously pissed off tonight. To day was DDs birthday, she has 2 big half brothers (early twenties, each still lives locally with their Mum - but different mums). Neither of them has so much as put a card through the door for her. DD is adopted and family means the world to her I am so f*ing angry with them on her behalf. She adores them both. It was DS birthday a few weeks ago, eldest DSS got him a card and present but 2nd DSS didn't bother to acknowledge his birthday either. Both the DSS have birthdays coming up I am seriously tempted to give them nothing too - childish I know! I will calm down tomorrow, I know they are probably being typical young men but feel so upset for DD, she was so disappointed but trying so hard not to care.

I have three boys. Not one of them would know, nor care, when the others birthday is, and they all live in the same house.

All your children have the same father? his job to nudge his family accordingly. Ditto his job to buy his sons presents.

Yes the kids all have the same father, unfortunately he works away from home but I did send him a text tonight telling him how upset I am (can't phone because of time difference, was trying to give them a chance). He'll be home late tomorrow night so will be able to talk to him better then. Thing is I know DSS2 buys birthday presents for his half-siblings on the other side. I have always given presents from us and separate ones from children to them and their girlfriends. I think you're right, will leave it up to DH in future.

Can someone please just say they are nasty smelly boys to make feel better ;(

I agree with Holly

Why didn't he nudge them about it?

I'm shit at remembering birthdays and if it wasn't for my calendar, I probably never would.

Even then, DH has to write his family birthdays on it too.

Oh they both knew it was her birthday, DSS1 was round last weekend and we were talking about her birthday because her birthday treat was last Saturday and we were going out for a meal. Both in full time employment too. I think that's why I'm hurt, I don't think they've forgotten, just not bothered. I know or DS birthday a few weeks ago DSS1 had reminded DSS2 but told me said, "I'm skint" then never even bothered to come round and see him. In fact we probably won't see him now until a week before his own birthday.

I agree with holly my son is 20 and unless you buy a card, stick it under his nose and hand him the pen there's no hope . He is very good at Christmas though .