aibu to be upset by this? (re ex-husband)

[CamilleMoriarty]

My ex (of 2 years) we had been together since we were 20ish. We don't live very far apart so have joint custody of our two children. We are amicable and at the start of this month he said he was going on holiday for just over a week so would it be ok with me to look after the children - yes it was fine, and wished him a good holiday.

We rarely see each other and just communicate by calling each other, he will pick the children up from school Friday night etc.

Anyway I just went on Facebook and a mutual friend of ours had commented on one of my exs photos (we are not fb friends but this came still came up on my newsfeed)

It was a photo of him in Hong Kong with a woman (assuming she is his girlfriend, doubtful just a good friend)

I'm not hurt that he's been on holiday with a woman or that he never actually said where he was going - completely his life to do what he wants with.

The part that hurts is ... whilst we were together I always asked him if we could go away to China/Thailand/Hong Kong/Japan etc (before we had children) and he always said no ... and now he's done willingly done it with someone else.

Aibu to be upset by this? I'm willing to accept that I am - just needed to moan/vent because I'm feeling quite hurt at the moment.

Understandable.

1st exh was tight and wouldn't let me buy wallpaper over £3.50 a roll (not a lot even in the 90's!). When we split he proudly showed me the stuff at £15/roll he'd bought.......and the holiday thing gets me with exh2 - never wanted to go abroad...FINALLY got 3 foreign holidays of HIS choice once dd came along but the 1st holiday he took with ow was to Spain.......

Very gaulling - but breathe and remind yourself why he's an ex.....(tosser!)

I'm not going to do the AIBU or not answer, As if you feel hurt, you feel hurt and that has nothing to do with reasonableness.

However maybe he regretted his choices before and wants to make a new start or maybe she has family there. Who knows? But you can go too and you will have more fun than you would have done with an unwilling partner.

but breathe and remind yourself why he's an ex.....(tosser!)

^^^

This is it really.

My ex and I decided to split as we wanted different things. I wanted another baby in the future, he never wanted anymore.

4 months later he merry his new gf, and she was pregnant (planned) within 6 weeks.

Yanbu to feel hurt, I know exactly how you feel. Although glad the twat is an ex!

We split 23 years ago, but he has always seen our son. He proudly announced that he has over £300,000 in his personal pension fund now. He has never paid a penny in maintenance, ever !!!

Not on the same scale as you I know, but when my ex and I were together I found out the Cirque de Solei (sp?) was coming to town and was begging to go, he wouldn't, wasn't interested etc.

1 week after we broke up he was at said circus with the girl that fancied him throughout our relationship

You're entitled to feel hurt, so YANBU, but don't give him the satisfaction of knowing it bothers you. Especially as there's always a little chance he's done it intentionally knowing it'd get back to you.