Dh being an arse...Aibu

[mummytasha11]

Dh works away mon-fri...came home yesterday afternoon for a couple days off/long weekend which I thought LOVELY!

Anyway I finish work and go and meet him and my ds at his mothers and he's not very welcoming and then decides to fall asleep on the armchair of his mothers at 430pm while 2 yr old ds is playing in the living room.

Ds is not unattended but Aibu. To think this is very selfish?

There are days when I would love to dose off on the sofa but don't because i have to keep an eye on ds!

well, presumably your MIL was there too, so DS wasn't exactly unnattended? and i imagine he was just tired, he'll be home an extra two days, so i don't think a quick nap when (presumably) he's driven quite a distance is a crime.

Does he frequently doze off during his weekends at home as well?

In which case you never really get a break from the childcare, OP?

He does occasionally just doze off and it doesn't normally bother me or i don't make an issue of it but it just annoyed me yesterday because I also thought it was quite rude at his mothers house.

And I said to him to wake up and he said he was tired so I said well get an early night tonight....he then stayed up till 1130pm.

He has given me the silent treatment since yesterday because I dared to have an opinion about it.

so much going on here that that one nap OP.

I would not have been bothered if it was just a one off, but like I say there is way more to this, isnt there?

??? What do you mean

If mil was there to keep an eye on ds I don't see the problem? Admittedly if this happens a lot but he stays up late every night I would be strongly encouraging an early night.

He has a surprise extra day off work, you can do something nice as a family and enjoy each other's company, or you can quarrel over nap. I would let this one go.

If there is a problem over unequal sharing of childcare, then talk about this when you are both calmer.

You cannot seriously be offended if this was a one off and usually all is happy in your relationship ( as his mother was there and he is probably shattered if he works long hours/ has along way to travel).

So I think there's more to this. Why he is not talking? does he often stop talking to you? Did you verbally give him hell? Does he treat you respectfully?

I used to doze off on the sofa all the time when my kids were little. The kind of dozing where you would wake immediately if something unexpected happened.
My DH dozes off all the time in anyone's house. Surely his own mothers house would be the ideal place for your DH to snooze.
Why is this such an issue?