AIBU to tell people off who park in parent & child spaces but have no children with them?

[Ameybee]

This does my head in when I'm struggling to get 2 kids out the car in a normal space yet some idiot without kids is parked in the child space!!

I told a lady off today! I said 'do you know this is a parent & child space?' She said 'yeah' I replied 'so you're just being inconsiderate then?' She thought about it then made up some bullshit about her child being 'down there, in that shop!!' - she had just driven in!!! Clearly lying. So, would you say something to someone!???

SDT

Shelley.

I'm curious,you've just said that some parents may have a legit need for the space but you also said words to the effect of "I'm using it if you don't like it fuck off"

If you visited the supermarket and a mum like the poster above with the legit need was also there,how would you judge if her need was genuine?

Or would you just not bother and take the space anyway just because you don't agree with them?

My DP does this i find it so embarassing! It is annoying but its one of those things some people are inconsiderate and dont care but id never say anything

'...the bloke with the twatty mid range car

Snob and entitled cunt at the same time? '

Yes I assume he was

Mrsdevere no idea what you mean but there's nothing dodgy about this thread (I started it).

The point has gotten entirely lost sadly - I don't think I'm entitled to a p&c space everywhere I go & nor can I not shop without one. The point is its annoying if people who DON'T need it park in them! I have no problem with disabled people using them or those need it, I'm talking about those who just park in them for sheer selfish reasons.

I think its sad that parts of this thread have gotten nasty and personal.

You can't judge who needs one by looking at them though. And therefore YABU to challenge someone using a space.

sock - I wouldn't be judging anyone; It's not my place to do so.

The point was that if the wider spaces were marked as being for people with less mobility or other particular needs (SN child who's difficult to get in/out, passenger with broken leg, etc) they would provide an actual benefit to customers, rather than being an unnecessary but seemingly god-given 'right' of people with children.

I actually saw two people arguing over a PFB space last week and the argument seemed to be around the fact that the person parked in the space didn't have the correct sticker in his window. Both drivers had children with them but this seemed to be lost on the lady who was sure she should have the space as she had the sticker.

Situations like that say it all for me really.

So you have said sirzy .... Lots of times! I get that you think AIBU!!!

Shelly - I thought sock was asking you whether you would judge the woman as having more need of the space than you, and let her park in it instead of grabbing it for yourself - not whether you would be judgemental about her.

I have to say, I haven't met lots of mothers and fathers who think that P&C spaces are a God-given right, or that they must have one, in order to go shopping - most people that I have come across think they are a good thing, that makes life a bit easier, but if there isn't one available, they cope and it's not the end of the world.

I genuinely think it is churlish and mean for someone who doesn't NEED to use a P&C space to park in it.

Sdt.

You are correct about my query that is exactly what I ment

Baby perhaps that's because you keep insisting people have misunderstood in some effort to make out like it is reasonable to tell strangers off

Bump for footie

OK. Well, I have taken on board everything that's been said so far....

What do you think about someone parking in an adult and child bay later in the evening, say 9pm?

imperial I wondered that too. I personally think they are helpful. Use them if available. Park elsewhere if they're not. Dislike seeing people with no kids parked in them, unless they're disabled/otherwise immobile but perhaps sans badge.

But in the evening, when its raining, they're tempting. But I don't tend to. Don't think it matters then, they're usually all free.

I said regularly and, oh dear never mind

Ah! Great minds think alike then I've got an itchy posting finger...

Sirzy - I asked her if she knew it was p&c, and its YOUR opinion that its unreasonable - there are other opinions on here that say its not and you have repeated your opinion several times on here - I get it that's what YOU think! I've responded to what people have said - because this thread has gone round in circles, I've not tried to imply that its completly reasonable - I'm explaining my reasons.

Its getting boring now anyway....

Stop posting then!

You stop first

The bottom line is that it would be considerate not to park in P&C places if they don't really need them but telling people off for misusing them makes you look silly. They are a luxury, not a right. Some people on this thread have really pissed me off by comparing P&C spaces to blue badge spaces. Talk about entitled.

Our local supermarket has moved the P&C spaces to the back of the carpark with a trolley park next to it and a safe walkway to the door. It's fab because no-one uses it unless they want the extra space around the car. I have in the past told people off for using them without children or for using them with older children,I told off one father whose 10 year old was helping carry the shopping to the car and pointed out that as a parent he should know that there were other parents who needed the space more. I had two preschoolers and a baby bump so he did at least have the decency to look embarrassed.