To wonder if we,l ever live together

[Stelmosfire]

Been with BF over 2 yrs. live about 25miles apart. Tried living together in early days but didn't work for various reason, didn't know each other well enough.

Been aiming to do it again but I'm worried things have cooled off. Due to work shifts ect I won't see him for just over a week and I'm seem to missing him more than he does me. I'm tired of coming home to an empty house and sitting alone in the evenings, all my friends have their own families.

We keep setting vague date for him to move in but I keep thinking he's got excuses and is putting it off. For example work to far away from mine and can't afford petrol, this is a good point but I'm just getting frustrated that we won't get it together and I feel I'm more bothered than he is. If I ask him he says it will happen but never shows the same disappointment as me if we can't see each other for a while. AIBU?

YANBU to wonder. But I hate to say, it doesn't sound like it's going to happen. 2 years is quite a decent amount of time, for him to still be so vague about future plans and not seeming too bothered about seeing you.

What are the good and bad points in the relationship? Are you happy generally?

He doesn't want to live with you. And apart from that being his perfect right, even if he's too yellow-bellied to spell it out to you, he's right about the petrol. And it didn't work before did it? Why not? And what has changed that might make it work this time?

It took Mr Euro 5 years to move in. I was ready before he was and it was a hard time. But we are now very happily married. I have to say though, much as I wanted him to show the commitment of moving in, I really miss having my own space!

He,d had some major upheavals in his life the first time around and so had I really, we didn't know each other or understand each other.

I would say we are happy 80 per cent of the time and we do have arguments still but they get resolved or we just both back off now.

I just feel bloody lonely at times and think we really should take the plunge or separate, not that I want to

Money is a major issue. I have a house he doesn't and so would be moving into mine. Now he is worrying about the commute as the people he thought he could car share with might not be able to. AIBU to think he may be finding reasons not to move.

Also I feel he gets annoyed if I'm disappointed we won't see each other for a while but I think it's because he thinks I'm finding fault with him and he feels responsible