To get irritated by competitive 'busy-ness?'

[Murphy0510]

Yep, we get it. You're busy. Why the need to tell people about it? If I hear one more school mum tell me how very busy they are I shall scream! We're ALL busy!

LAlady, that always makes me laugh too! Or when they detail on FB what chores and errands they have to do that day, and then moan as it's going to be such a busy day! Erm, well get off FB and it might take a little less time to plough through the list!

My SIL and BIL used to be like this; they have one child and were full of tales about how they were too busy for...anything.

They have gone strangely quiet since we had DC2.

I know someone who is permanently 'busy' but it is because she is so flaky and can't say 'no' to people so she rushes around forgetting what she is meant to being doing and not getting anything actually done in time. It's infuriating, but that is her so we all just try and do the 'water ducks back' thing when she is telling us how super busy she is.

Me, I've got a shed load to get through today and I'm procrastinating by being on bloody MN which is just making it worse for myself...

I have a colleague like this. Always always busy, stock line in team meetings is that she is too busy to work on something, and it will have to be handed over. The thing is, I used to have her job so I know exactly what her remit/ workload is. Yes it is a demanding role, but can't help thinking she would manage it a lot better if she just fecking got on with it...

I have an NCT friend who is like this. She is a SAHM with two toddlers so granted that is hard work.

But when I text/email asking how she is - her replies are always full of how hectic/frantic/manic/kerazy her life is.

Really? You've been to Gymboree and updated your baking blog?

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I don't think I have ever been busy in my whole life.

Ha- I'm beginning to think I've worked with mrsjay, and murphy. Its annoying when people go on and on about how busy they are - but they are using it as an excuse to do avoid doing anything. I don't care if you sit at home all day watching rubbish tv and mn'ing - just don't make out you've mown the lawn, vaccumed the entire house, and are now preparing to go and abseil down tower bridge, before you sit down to a homemade dinner before seducing your DH - fuck off I don't care !

I know someone who is single and busy all the time, because she is scared to not be busy.She is scared that people will notice that she doesnt have much going on , and scared of her feelings if she stops doing whatever it is she has found herself to do.

I'd say you haven't got enough to do if it takes up that much of your time and thought...busy yourself woman! ;)

LaQueen :Genuinely busy people don't talk about it. Because they're too busy doing it. Exactly that! OP YANBU!

I laugh at my friend she has older DS and a crazy social life and is the busiest, non working, no DS at home all day mum I know, she fills her days with committee meetings, shopping, meeting friends, tennis - she's manic, and she sometime phones me at my office for a chat and I'm in the middle of something but always take time out for her and she cuts the conversation she stated saying "must dash lots to do" makes me smile all the time as I don't think once she has ever asked what anyone else does, and just assumes we are all sat waiting for her to call and fit in with her life.

I do hate the busy game so make a huge effort not to play it, tempted as Iam sometimes.

DH and I occasionally play Busy Top Trumps, until I listen to myself and give myself a hard slap

He is the King of Busy, from no1. Imtoogoddamnbusy Street, Busyville, UK, and if he was any more busy his legs would fall off and his head explode like a melon thumped by a cricket bat. Apparently

Though oddly, never too busy for eating or sex

goingupinfumes, that kind of person really annoys me.

The kind that usually want to talk and talk about themselves, then as soon as you try to get a word in edgeways 'so busy, must dash', as if it's you talking to them and stopping them from doing things.

YANBU!

lol op, i hear you, i feel like saying if you stopped going on and on, everyday about how busy you are, you may have a bit more time
but i don't because i'm far to nice to upset anyone

I read this thread last week and it popped into my mind last night after a conversation with a friend. I watched a film on Thursday night and was talking to said friend about it last night and I asked her if she'd seen it (spoke via FB chat). her reply? 'LOL Oh no I don't watch films, I'm far too busy'. Which I took to mean in a way that she seems to think I am some kind of bone idle layabout who just sits around doing nothing all day, as she often infers how busy she is. Every conversation that we have is peppered with her saying how busy she is.

She puts a lot of pressure on herself and likes everything 'perfect'. Instead of flopping down on the sofa at 10pm she'll be wrapping presents for next Xmas or making a Gruffalo costume for her child for world book day. But she then uses her busy-ness as a superior thing, inferring that she's perhaps a little bit better than everyone else, because she is busy.

It does annoy me, especially when she moans about being so busy and tired, when it's all her own doing in the first place!