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AIBU to think that if I didn't buy DH clothes he would look like....

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PessaryPam · 27/02/2013 12:13

Worzel Gummidge? As he gets older he seems to be more and more reliant on me to get him clothes, shoes, police throwing away old and holey stuff and generally take charge. It's starting to get on my tits.

Just before Christmas I had to hide a broken old pair of shoes that apparently he was going to keep for gardening but which kept appearing on his feet when we went out. I was going to throw them away in the bin nearer dustbin day so he couldn't retrieve them but now I can't remember where I put the bloody things.

The socks he had on this morning had virtually no sole on one foot, just a big gaping hole. I can't believe that he wouldn't notice when he put them on?

Just Aaaarrrrggghhh!

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aldiwhore · 27/02/2013 12:16

I don't buy clothes for DH, nor do I chuck out his old worn out 'much loveds'. I have though perfected the look [hmmm] and praised him, complemented him and given a general 'bravo' when he looks normal... which is happening more often.

I feel your pain regarding fucking gardening shoes/clothes. I am the same with 'decorating clothes' so cannot argue.

thegreylady · 27/02/2013 12:16

Mine is exactly the same! He puts on clean socks and underwear every day but would wear a jumper till it fell off in rags. Gosh he is scruffy!

noisytoys · 27/02/2013 12:16

Are you married to my DH? He is exactly the same

aldiwhore · 27/02/2013 12:17

Oh and if they're not bad enough for 'gardening clothes' then thay seem to be 'for around the house' - whilst I want him to be comfy, I don't really want him looking like a tramp 'around the house' while I'm in it.

sazpops · 27/02/2013 12:20

Yy to gardening shoes. Mine has so many, practically identical pairs in varying states of disrepair, and I never know which ones are 'gardening' , 'doing things in the shed (?),' going for a walk when it's too wet for normal shoes but not muddy enough for boots (??)' etc.

There's always one pair by the back door, but I don't know which they are!

Jayne266 · 27/02/2013 12:21

Mine too and if my DH has socks with holes in he doesn't through them away he puts them in the wash!

We have what we call sloggy clothes (which are normally ex gym stuff) to wear around the house when we are not going out. I looked through the sloggy draw it was full instead of throwing something away he down grades it to this area.

freddiefrog · 27/02/2013 12:24

DH isn't too bad with clothes, except for one pair of track suit bottoms.

They are older than our kids, are more hole than actual track suit, are covered in some very suspect stains and are now so old and baggy that they are wider than they are long.

He just won't throw them away. I keep hiding them but I swear they're haunting me as wherever I put them, they find their way back into his wardrobe

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PessaryPam · 27/02/2013 12:24

Oh glad it's not just me. Good news is writing the post triggered a vague remembering of where I hid the shoes and I found them. They are now in the bin outside and the dustmen come tomorrow. Finger crossed.

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aldiwhore · 27/02/2013 12:26

Good luck!! Actually... it's bin day tomorrow for us too Time for me to be unreasonable!

Msbluesky32 · 27/02/2013 12:27

I had to hide socks last week because you could see more flesh than sock material. Today he was wearing a holey cardigan that really needs a wash and we are going out later - he reluctantly handed it over for cleaning and repair but very very reluctantly. I have no idea what it is but he wears things until they are literally hanging off of him. It's a guy thing and I don't understand it !

Lottapianos · 27/02/2013 12:28

Glad it's not just me too. Even the lovely Mariella Frostrup is in the same situation - she said recently that her husband looks 'as if she's just pulled him out of a skip' (nods in sympathy)

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PessaryPam · 27/02/2013 12:29

Jayne, the kids used to do the putting in the wash thing, you know, 'can't be bothered to put clothes away?' so 'stick them in the wash instead'. So glad they are at uni now.

freddie, my Dad used to have a cardie like this and it drove my DM crazy. If I want to be really pointy with my DH I tell him he is turning into his FIL. That really makes him pay attention

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PessaryPam · 27/02/2013 12:30

Good luck aldi.

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cosysocks · 27/02/2013 12:32

I had to stop DH before he left for work this morning and took the coat off his back as it was so dirty!
He just doesn't care about how scruffy he looks, doesn't help that his work dress code is smart casual, which he takes as anything goes...

LaurieFairyCake · 27/02/2013 12:32

Dh has more Worzel clothes than normal clothes.

So I call his normal clothes 'sex' clothes, meaning if you want to snuggle up to me I don't cuddle tramps.

I have noticed he changes out of painting clothes by 4pm in half terms in the hope of 'snuggles' in the evening

MisselthwaiteManor · 27/02/2013 12:35

What you have to do with shoes is not let them back in the house at all. I take DH shoe shopping and make him change them and immediately bin his old ones in a bin on the high street. Unfortunately this is necessary. I had to do it with jeans once too. I made him go and change out of his scruffiest, holiest jeans in the toilets and throw them away!

I also once 'accidentally' left a manky old hoody of his on the bus. "I'll hold that for you while we get off"....

Facebaffle · 27/02/2013 12:35

DH has a "uniform" which he sticks to rigidly.

Work - jumper with fake shirt inside
Casual - short sleeved checked shirts
Dressing Up - vertical striped shirt

Whenever he buys something new, it's got to fit into one of those categories - in varying colours. I once counted 47 tops in his wardrobe. I take clothes out for the charity bag and when he complains I say he can have the item back if he can describe it to me

When he buys new shoes, he just buys a new pair of the old style.

meddie · 27/02/2013 12:38

My dad was exactly the same. he had this one jumper that was more holes than jumper. He loved it. My mum regularly threw it out, it was like he had a jumper radar and would find it before the bin men managed to take it away. It drove her demented.He said it was comfy and just for the garden, thought many a time she would have to stop him leaving the house in it to go shopping.
Then he died suddenly, the funeral directors come to ask for clothes to dress him in. His jumper went with him. I dread to think what they thought when they were dressing him in his holey old jumper. It just seemed fitting to let him take his beloved jumper with him.

freddiefrog · 27/02/2013 12:41

My DH does the uniform too

Work & casual are the same as he works from home - jeans, shirt, hoodie
Going out - smarter jeans and 'wacky' patterned shirt

Everything in his wardrobe fits into those categories and god forbid you suggest some cargo trousers or something. He currently has about 12 short sleeved checked shirts in various shades of blue.

Bejeena · 27/02/2013 12:59

I don't dare buy mine any clothes he is so fussy. Hence he looks like Worzel Gummidge most of the time!

His comfy around the house clothes are a pair of camouflage combat trousers so he always looks like a tramp. But I love him!

He also has this habit of putting his dressing gown on over his clothes (usually said camouflage trousers) when he is cold in the house. So people call unexpeditly at 4pm on a Sunday afternoon and he could be in his dressing gown.

One thing I have to do as well is flip his pants and t shirts around in the drawer, otherwise he would wear same 7 t shirts in a row for 7 days, I wash them put them back and he wears same 7 again.

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PessaryPam · 27/02/2013 13:04

Haha I got my DH some skinny jeans last year. Total fail, I did try to change the outfit though.

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DukeSilver · 27/02/2013 13:08

I think I might be your DH. Apart from that i'm a woman, and pretty sure i'm not married.

My clothes are always clean but I was born scruffy It's how i'm comfortable. My whole family is a bit of a scruff bucket to be honest, maybe I should blame my parents. We were farmers though, so I suppose there was just no reason for smartness unless you were going to beg for more money from the bank.

TheCatIsUpTheDuff · 27/02/2013 13:31

DH has a uniform as well.

Work - black trousers, brown shirt with brown stripy tie/blue shirt with blue stripy tie
Casual - Brown or green fleece with brown cords/jeans
Smart - new brown/green fleece with new brown cords/ jeans.
For very special occasions he has old man trousers. A bit like this.

bigbluebus · 27/02/2013 13:44

DH rarely buys clothes, but when he does, it is always something he doesn't need as he has already got it.
For example, he was browsing the internet for brown shoes. I pointed out that he already had 4 pairs of brown shoes in various styles, whilst his only black shoes had a hole in the sole. He denied this, until I made him bring out every pair of shoes he owned and line them up. Of course, I was right, so he relented and bought a new pair of smart black shoes - only to then go and buy a new brown pair 2 weeks later.

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