To not make my DS wear shoes that might not fit?

[PseudoBadger]

We are going to DP's cousin's wedding at Easter. DS is going to be page boy (he's just 2). The wedding is in N Ireland and DS was fitted for his suit when we were over at Christmas, with alterations to be done just before the wedding.

The bride wants to buy shoes to match the suit off the Internet soon. The problem is that DS's feet haven't grown for ages and I'm pretty certain they'll spurt or something and the shoes will be too small.

I've told her that I'll measure his feet just before she wants to order, but then if we come over and the shoes don't fit he can just wear his own. DP's mum said I'm being unreasonable as the shoes must match the suit. He's 2 ffs.

AIBU?

No you are not. Not at any age is this acceptable.

I think his shoes are your business.

No way are YBU, shoes that don't fit can really hurt!

How odd of her. YANBU

He's two. Seriously, who gives a shit what shoes he is wearing?

Find him some cheap black shoes to wear for an hour if she's getting arsey about it, then let him wear his normal comfy ones. If she's expecting a two year old to stand smiling for all the wedding photos anyway, she's insane.

What kind of suit is it?! Surely smart black shoes would go with anything? (which you could buy and get fitted yourself).

Tbh though I would just buy a half size up. It's only for one day and if they are too big just wear 2 pairs of socks.

It's only a month away, Easter, isn't it? My just 2 yr old has only gone up 1.5 sizes in a whole year.

why don't YOU order the shoes now, so you can check there's a bit of growing room?

I think a 2year old protesting his feet hurt is a fast way to spoil a wedding!

Tell the bride your worries - if the shoes she is after are cheap, then perhaps she could get two sizes? Otherwise you supply shoes that will suit the outfit. He wears them for most of the day. If she wants the shoes of her choice in eg photos, take bribes so he can manage for just that time.

Two of my nieces wore their trainers underneath their bridesmaids dresses on my wedding. They were both three. Yanbu.

Get them a size bigger than now and pop an insole in if needed?

Ha ha yes SirBoob - I'm pretty certain he won't even go with her, let alone stand for photos!

I'm going to get him measured literally on the day that she puts in the order, and if we feel that he's close to the end of the size (6) then i'll go for a half size up. He hasn't grown since September which is why i'm a bit twitchy.

I'm not paying for shoes he's going to wear once, if she wants to then good luck to her!

but surely even if they are the 'right' size there is no guarantee that they will fit!
I've been in a shoe shop full of shoes in the 'right' size where only 1 or 2 pairs fit if we're lucky.

Well quite, they might be too narrow or horrid and stiff

YANBU.

When my SIL was getting married she asked me in March what size shoes my 4 yr old dd would need in September. She wasn't impressed when I pretended to look into a crystal ball.

not pfb at all.

I would (pretend to) look carefully at the pics online and then say that there is no way they will fit him because he has narrow/wide/weird feet. And say you will get him some plain black ones.

Get him measured and order the shoes now. Have them delivered to you. You can make sure they fit and he can wear them in. There would be nothing worse than putting him in brand new shoes on the day, that may or may not fit.

It also gives you chance to exchange them if you are concerned when he first tries them on.