To wonder at the logic of DH.

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Why does he walk PAST the dishwasher tout his dirty bowl on the worktop?

Why does he come DOWN the stairs without the mug he left up there but then says "I'll do it later". Just do it FFS you are coming in to the kitchen anyway!

Why has he just said to me this morning "I didn't see it there". This is in reference to an empty shoe box and a receipt on the floor in the middle of the box room - which he left there at least a month ago and I have just asked him to do something with it today as I am sick of seeing it there (you can see it on the landing the door is open all the time).

In line with the shoe box I also asked why there were a huge pile of receipts, ripped magazines, empty hair gel container etc on the chest of drawers. Which again I have ignored until this morning. I have come home to find he has "removed" them in to his sock drawer (along with there being a pile of empty dog poo bags in there).

I have just said to him I don't understand his logic and to just shift shit rather than leaving it until I can't stand it anymore. Sadly this is not a new conversation < goes to boil own head >

My dad and brother do this too. It's been dubbed "Selective Bloke Blindness" in our family...

Because he is a man. In my fantasy, I leave DH so that I can visit him at a later date, when his house is all 'Mr Trebus' and shout 'AHAHAHAAA!!! I TOLD YOU SO!'

All my family do this, neither DH or the DDs see bits of paper on tables or the stairs, no one else ever puts them in the BIN!

In my fantasy I have a separate house where stuff goes back in the cupboard it came from (not left on the worktop) and where items that go together can be found together - such as finding the tray to put on top of the scales but not actually finding the scales.

I would visit DH's house but leave when I spied an empty toilet roll still on the holder

I am like your DH and I am a woman. I just don't notice things...

I wonder this too.

Of course I am by no means perfect and often do some of the above. Sometimes I forget the mug upstairs and think I'll just get it next time I go up.

Regarding the shoe box I could never say I didn't see it though or that I 'forgot' (this is my DHs favourite) usually I just couldn't be bothered to put it away and decide to do it later. Sometimes we can all be a bit lazy, I know I am!

Shall I even mention leaving all cupboard doors, also sometimes the fridge, open and not even notice??? DH does this all the time.

Are we married to the same man? My DH is just the same, it drives me potty! He leaves dirty pots on the worktop when the dishwasher is empty, puts empty drinks cartons back in the fridge, opens a new pack of bacon/butter/cheese etc... even though there is one pack already open, because "he didn't see it there" the list goes on, and on and on. On the plus side he does do all the ironing and gets DS up and dressed every morning, because I'm crap in the morning not a morning person.

You see now I am worried, what if pfb has got the gene from him as Startails clearly has ? I thought she was safe because she was a girl

That's it there is no hope and I am doomed. I need to win the lottery to pay for a Picker-Upper.

God definitely not Craving whilst he does do all the cooking he "once upon a time" ironed the sleeves of a shirt but not the front and yesterday he dressed DD, so she went out wearing a dress and jeans.

He is fit though

I get the 'I didn't see it there' line all the time. Particularly seconds after he has just stepped over said item.

On the subject of the fridge I do also find empty juice cartons etc in the fridge.

He also opens new ham, butter, etc because he 'didn't see one' in there. He still never gets after almost 6 years living together if we open ham we take it out of the packet and keep it in a tupperware to keep it fresh. He used to just keep open pack (unsealed so of course ham dried up on ends) in the fridge and still looks for that same open pack. When he can't see it he just opens new one.

I think the best fridge story I have is when I was away at my Mum's for about 10 days. I got home when he wasn't in, opened the fridge to an enormous stench. However the shelves on the fridge had been emptied and cleaned, he had done a very good job. He had obviously noticed the smell and cleaned fridge to get rid of it. Bless him what he didn't think to do was check/clear the door too. I instantly noticed that there was an open pot of sour cream on the door shelf that was causing the smell as it had gone off.

So I threw it out and tried to hold my laughter when he came home and opened the fridge and the smell was gone as the look on his face was a confused picture.

I have about a thousand such similar stories!

well i do all of those , simply not the least important,ever ever ,and that is all i have to contribute

Stop moaning and do it yourself, they dont bother me, you're the one with the problem, you sort it out.

But it only doesn't bother you when someone else is doing the majority of the tidying/cleaning/putting away etc.

It would sure as hell bother you if everyone else took the same attitude and stopped doing what they do.

My kids don't see mess but they certainly notice if there are no clean mugs/plates/socks (insert item of choice).

If you all live together it is everyone's problem to keep on top of things.

Seniorwrangler, were you actually the top First in Maths?
(just out of curiosity - doesn't make any difference to your horribly selfish and arrogant remark - just wondering whether this is the sort of arrogance that goes with great academic success, or the sort of arrogance that goes with adopting a title you don't merit)

curmit

Because he is a man. In my fantasy, I leave DH so that I can visit him at a later date, when his house is all 'Mr Trebus' and shout 'AHAHAHAAA!!! I TOLD YOU SO!'

Mr Trebus

My DP does all these things and more. Drives me completely fucking mental. It's mystifying. Right now I'm looking at some empty packaging he tore off something earlier and put RIGHT NEXT to the bin.

And the amount of times I find dirty socks and boxers ON TOP of the lid to the washing basket.

I'll never understand.

^ as above.

I often call my DH Mr Trebus when complaining pointing out his weird hording ways.
DH just can't seam to throw things away. Our recycling system doesn't help he worries he is putting the wrong thing out so just doesn't bother.

yy to all of the above.
What about having a mangled pile of clean/ironed/dirty clothes hanging out of the wardrobe that only a 15 year old with a death wish would dare leave. Aaaagh!

I have been guilty of most of this stuff, and last time I looked I was female. It's not a man thing.

I have changed because it pisses DH off and I care enough about him to change.

I still seem incapable of putting lids back on stuff though, so still more re-training required.