I've posted in behaviour and development but haven't had any replies yet.
I won't post the whole lot as it's not really for here, but basically my ds is 4 almost 5, he's in reception and there's a group of boys he regularly complains about, that they have hit him, said they're not his friend, just generally annoying him. He's been adamant that he doesn't like them and doesn't play with them.
There's another boy I'll call him 'M' who as far as I knew was ds best friend, ds has liked him since the first week, always says he's played with him. The boys mum has suggested to me that they're best friends and we've joked about them missing one another when one of them has been off. She's offered ds to come round to play. They've been together at parties and have been like two peas in a pod, ds wants him to sit next to him at his party etc, etc.
There was an incident recently which involved ds and the other group of boys playing rough.
I can't dispute that it happened, however, ds has given me a different version of events, I still can't dispute that he was involved. Ds said he only played with them because 'M' was off ill. However speaking to ds teacher it seems that ds is quite friendly with this group of boys. I asked about his friend 'M', and the teacher looked confused and said that ds doesn't play with 'M' at all. At the beginning of the year I spoke to her about one of the group of other boys I'll call him 'K' and she said that he didn't play with 'K'.
I've asked ds today who he played with and he said 'M', he's still adamant that he doesn't like 'K' and the other boys and that 'M' is his best friend, however the teacher has told me the exact opposite.
What am I supposed to think? Things 'M's mum has said has suggested to me that they are friends, I've also observed them, but the teacher sees them everyday so she should really know.