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AIBU?

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Original poster

To have found this comment annoying/offensive?

18 replies

LaPetiteSirene · 26/02/2013 13:54

I'm currently living abroad as part of a work course etc.

I am living with 7 other people in one house (haven't met each other before), and we all work for the same company.

They have been living in the house just over a month longer than I have.

Last night one of the women came home late from work and needed to bake cookies for the next day, I had today off so offered to help her which she accepted.

We were in the middle of baking when one of the guys said in a jokey way that I was doing something wrong.

When the woman said back "at least shes earning her keep in this house"

I'm not sure if I was being unreasonable but this comment made me rage (inside) - I would accept this comment if I didn't pay rent and it was her house.

But in reality we all pay the exact same rent each week and the house belongs to the company.

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Bejeena · 26/02/2013 13:56

It sounds like she was just having a joke and maybe possibly a bit lost in translation.

Sounds like to me she was just having a go at the guy for thinking he could comment when he was actually doing nothing.

ceebie · 26/02/2013 13:56

I think you're getting your knickers in a twist over nothing. I would have thought just just meant "At least she's being helpful"

minouminou · 26/02/2013 13:56

I think she was having a go at him, because he was stood on the sidelines while you made an effort.

babiesinslingsgetcoveredinfood · 26/02/2013 13:57

Yes YABU

AnaisB · 26/02/2013 13:58

Yabu to find it offensive. It sounds like it was a (relaxed) dig at him.

Petsinmypudenda · 26/02/2013 13:59

She was just saying you were useful and he wasn't. A compliment if anything

EuroShaggleton · 26/02/2013 14:00

It was a dig at him for being a lazy sod, wasn't it?

HoHoHoNoYouDont · 26/02/2013 14:02

'earning your keep' is a popular phrase for being helpful/doing something. I would take her comment as a compliment. As others have said, it was a dig at the guy, not you.

LRDtheFeministDragon · 26/02/2013 14:02

Yeah, she was having a dig at him, not you!

Greythorne · 26/02/2013 14:02

Deffo a dig at the bloke, not you.

Nancy66 · 26/02/2013 14:03

....yes, but what do you think of the new Flora margarine ad?

imnotmymum · 26/02/2013 14:03

Yes I say this all the time to my kids, DH etc. just a joke! Lighten up OP!!

Willow36 · 26/02/2013 14:04

YABU

HildaOgden · 26/02/2013 14:05

It was a dig at him,not you.Were you really raging inside about it??

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LaPetiteSirene · 26/02/2013 14:09

Ha ... it's probably other things she has said to me too and her attitude. But that would be drip-feeding.

I am lightened up and can take a joke ...

She just winds me up.

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minouminou · 26/02/2013 14:13

What nationality are you both?

This attitude might not be directed solely at you, and it might not be an attitude at all but a cultural difference.

I've known a lot of Balkan women and they can start off with the abrasive joking manner that more reserved Brits develop over time in friendships. Took me aback at first, but now I find it means they like you and want to be your chum.

maddening · 26/02/2013 14:33

Sounds like w dig at the man - as in he's a lazy sod

hellsbellsmelons · 26/02/2013 15:06

Well Nancy66 - it is an outrage.
I am obviously complaining to Flora regarding this!

Best post in ages!!!

Oh dear lapetite I really hope things get better. If not then you'll have to have a little 'chat' with her!

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