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to find my friend annoying when she judges what I eat?

71 replies

BodieBolts · 25/02/2013 23:06

My friend has always been very into healthy eating - absolutely nothing wrong with that in the slightest, and good for her.

We went out on a day trip together and when it came to lunch, she said "I really need to eat some vegetables" and it ended up being my choice (between 2 places) of where to eat (there was 4 of us) and I chose a pizza place. She left the crust and said afterwards - all that grease will keep us warm now.

I also dared to buy a bottle of coke on the way home whilst she bought some fruit. She asked what I bought and said I told her and she just laughed.

Now I eat healthily 90% of the time but on rare days I generally don't give a shit and will enjoy pizza without getting upset about it. Life is too short to worry or deny myself certain food all the time.

I don't mind if she wants to be healthy 99% of the time but I don't want to be judged for what I decide to eat.

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BreadForMyBREADGUN · 25/02/2013 23:08

YANBU. I have colleagues that do this and its so fucking rude.

CocacolaMum · 25/02/2013 23:08

YANBU in my opinion.

If she wants to eat healthily then great but unless you are asking for her opinion then she should keep it to herself!

StickEmUp · 25/02/2013 23:10

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YouTheCat · 25/02/2013 23:10

Her comments say more about her attitude to food really. The food may be healthy, but the attitude isn't and her manners are shocking.

McNewPants2013 · 25/02/2013 23:12

Yanbu.

I have work friends in the past counting my syns, but I understand their obsession with dieting.

thebody · 25/02/2013 23:12

She sounds very childish.

LeaveTheBastid · 25/02/2013 23:15

Her issues, not yours.

Enjoy your pizza, coke, and healthy attitude towards food.

HoHoHoNoYouDont · 25/02/2013 23:17

Oh I know sooooo many people like this. I feel like ramming a greasy burger down their bloody throats!

RaspberryRuffle · 25/02/2013 23:21

Could she not have got a pizza with vegetables on it? Wink
Alongside my healthy food but I also have chocolate every day, one of my colleagues is always commenting that he couldn't possibly eat that much chocolate - the good news is I'm not going to force him so wish he would just shut up!

TinyDiamond · 25/02/2013 23:22

so rude and annoying. she needs to mind her own

floweryblue · 25/02/2013 23:23

YANBU. My Sis and I like different things. If we are out together we try to compromise. If we can't, we go our seperate ways and meet up again later. Why should either of us pay for food, or anything, we don't want to.

floweryblue · 25/02/2013 23:27

PS Pizza is bread, tomatoes and cheese, with some extra bits thrown on, so not necessarily 'unhealthy'.

LittleMissFantabulous · 25/02/2013 23:35

You're entirely unreasonable for mentioning pizza. I'm hungry!

BegoniaBampot · 25/02/2013 23:44

Tbh, if I was out with a friend who wouldn't really enjoy pizza for whatever reason then I would choose somewhere else.

Happymum22 · 25/02/2013 23:58

YANBU, however overweight or underweight another adult is you should never comment on what they eat. It is patronising and personal.

DD (20) has a usually lovely (I've met him) housemate who had a horrible habit of commenting on what the other housemates are eating. He apparently will make comments about carbs or fat which can be very off putting and if mis-interpreted make them the girls think he was saying they are fat or unhealthy- they all are great students and cook proper meals. They all have a good and balanced diet, mostly pretty healthy but with the occasional treat.
DD pointed out to him the other day politely how his comments come across in a very light hearted conversation, he was mortified and apologetic and reassured them he did not mean anything bad just simply is into health and fitness. So I guess maybe your friend just doesn't realise what she is saying, some of those healthy eating fanatics can get so wrapped up in it they are just commenting and not meaning anything harsh.

Greensleeves · 26/02/2013 00:01

Just make snidey wisecracks back at her with a nice big gleeful grin. If she can dish it out she should be able to take it. Or she can stfu.

Greensleeves · 26/02/2013 00:05

My sister used to needle me about being fat (which I wasn't). I was a lot younger so it took me years to learn to answer back properly, ask her to stop clacking her finger bones during a meal, or offer to rub goose fat into her before we went for a walk in the cold. Cow.

Mimishimi · 26/02/2013 00:06

You are only BU if you moan about your weight to her at other times. If not, then YANBU, it's none of her business.

boodles · 26/02/2013 00:11

How is her food choices being different to yours rude? Maybe she actually enjoys eating veg? I personally do not enjoy greasy foods, I find they weigh heavy on my stomach and make me feel bloated, so I wouldn't enjoy that type of meal.

PootlePosyPerkin · 26/02/2013 00:16

YANBU. I have a sister like that - she openly disapproves of anything slightly "unhealthy" food wise, and even talks to down to people about their food choices in much the same way as you would tell a small child why they can't have any more chocolate today Confused.

She also smokes 20 a day & drinks enough wine to drown an army. That's different apparently Wink.

Original poster
BodieBolts · 26/02/2013 00:21

How is her food choices being different to yours rude?

Eh? Hmm when did I or anyone on this thread say that?

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frogspoon · 26/02/2013 00:30

YANBU, it's not her business what you eat.

And if she actually wanted vegetables she would have had a salad with/ instead of her pizza.

hopkinette · 26/02/2013 00:45

I don't like pizza but I think she sounds like a cock.

OkayHazel · 26/02/2013 01:00

MY response to this is 'Yeah, I can eat so much junk food and I still look great/am thin. I'd hate to have to watch everything I eat like you'

BreadForMyBREADGUN · 26/02/2013 01:03

The snarky bitches that make this kind of comment to me are always on some diet or another. They've been following theirs since Xmas and its all they can talk about. I've been watching what I eat, been sensible, odd treat/massive pizza/drinking session and I've still lost more than them (not that I've said a word of course :) )

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