AIBU to have thought DH would have been in touch today?

[CecyHall]

I've been really poorly today, still feeling like rubbish but slightly better shouldn't really be on here I've had high temp, aches all over, tight chest, dizzy, nausea etc.

I'm a SAHM, DH goes out to work, I know he's busy but knowing how I was feeling this morning and that I had a 6 year old (inset day) and a 22 month old to look after I'm surprised I've heard nothing all day.

My mum is on holiday and my MIL is moving house so i had to just suck it up and I know that this is part and parcel of staying at home, but if the roles were reversed I know I'd have to just check in that the person at home was surviving. Even just a quick text on the way back from the loo would do.

Am I being over dramatic and expecting too much?

no yanbu as dh tends to phone/text me at lunchtime to see if i need anything bringing home from the shop or just to check in with how I am.

YANBU - I expect texts every day - and more than 1 - and that's when I'm fine!
I really hope you feel better soon.
Here's some from me!

Well, you are allowed to be sad, because you are feeling so rough, and it's horrible to have to look after others when you are feeling rough, but once I get into work, I don't have time to think about anything except work, tbh - all home thoughts go out of my mind, so I don't think your dh is unusual or unreasonable not to have been texting you either.

No, that's not very nice. You should tell him that it made you feel like he's not looking out for you. He needs guidance!

Nope yanbu. DW and I will exchange texts and/or emails several times over a working day. Has he always been like this regarding staying in touch?

Yanbu at all.

Even my totally oblivious mother rang me today to check on me as I'm sick. I'd be quite upset if dp didn't bother to touch base if I were home alone ill with small children.

I think YA being a bit U. I'd expect DP to leave for work saying that he hoped I'd feel better during the day and did I want him to shop/bring anything specific home/get back earlier if possible and the like. However, when he's at work he is at work. I'd not expect him to be interrupting his day to send me texts. Especially since he'd assume that if all wasn't well, I'd get in touch anyway.

my DH would probably email me at the end of the day, when everything calms down at work - to find out if I'm ok / need anything. I don't get contact from him during the day because he's flat out.

Could your DH maybe have left you quiet because he thought you could be trying to sleep?...

YABU, he's probably just having a busy day. Sorry you are feeling so rough though, it isn't fun with DCs though hasn't the 6 yo been helpful and made things easier?

YABU to expect him to put his paying job aside to text you, but YANBU to get upset. you're not very well and that always makes things seems ten times worse.

when he gets home, i'm sure he'll take the kids off your hands and make sure you're feeling better and able to sleep. if not, then you have every right to be upset, but when someone's at work, you have to expect to take a bit of a back seat at times.

Thank you all, he's home now and said it was really hectic today but that he should have text.

I think I've been lucky before that where I've worked before was always fairly laid back and I could easily call or text so I don't have experience of being head down all day!

My 6 year old has been lovely, really trying to be helpful bless him.

Anyway, I'm off to rest, thanks for the good wishes and voices of reason while I'm in my misery pit!