On Thursday evening DS2 fractured, dislocated and tore ligaments in his shoulder playing rugby. He travelled to hospital in an ambulance car in his rugby kit, with a blanket wrapped round him because it was freezing.
I got to the hospital minutes after the ambulance car, and was there when they took off his jersey, so he was in a pair if shorts, when the temperature outside was -3. Not a problem inside as it was warm.
DH arrived with DS1(18) about 20 minutes later when DS2 was having his shoulder put back into place. I said whilst we were waiting that DS2 was going to be freezing because I didn't have a blanket in my car, and he had nothing big enough to put on. DS1 said he could put his suit jacket round his shoulders, I said ok but he could still do with something else. DH was sat there in a shirt, jumper and jacket.
When we went to leave, I checked the boot of my car just incase I had something in there I could use, I didn't and then tried to cover up DS2 a bit with his school blazer, because he was shivering and his teeth were chattering. It never occurred to me to ask DH because I thought if he had something in his car, he'd offer it because that is what I would do.
Next day, we had to go to the fracture clinic and were going in my car, so DH said he'd just get his coat out of his car. I asked if he had had it in there the night before, it is a big ski type jacket, he said yes and a down filled coat and a sleeping bag! I shook my head and asked why had he not thought to offer something to DS2, and he said he hadn't been asked and besides he was warm as toast!
. He had 3 layers on, DS2 was semi-naked!
Last night, he was being selfish about something else and I said he that he never thinks if anyone but himself, and Thursday was a good example of that. He said I am upset because I should have asked and as I didn't and DS2 was cold, it was my fault and I failed!
So AIBU, should I have had to have ask?