To think this woman should concentrate on her own dd and stop bitching about mine!

[Dinkysmummy]

Unfortunately my 5 year old dd and myself find ourselves in a family hostel. There is another mum who has a 2 year old dd. she moans that my dd makes noise outside when we leave for school and can't understand how my dd still wakes up at 6am during half term. She has also had a go about my dds boisterous behaviour and hyperactivity and said I need to learn how to control her! (dd being assessed for SN, and I've explained dd is on sen reg at school).

However when I look at her I think she is missing her own issues (or ignoring them). She lets her 2 yo run unaccompanied round the hostel at 1-2am screaming, and doesnt get up until midday. she told another mum that the HV came out and told her she needs to turn tv off and read to the kid as she still can't talk (she is learning two languages at once but shows no signs of SN according to the HV), she has admitted never having got down with her dd and taught her anything and she by all accounts is always in, so she doesn't take the little one anywhere, and her dd doesn't have any age appropriate toys they are all rattles and soft toys (apart from the shape sorter I got her for Xmas).

And she judges my dd and my parenting? I try my hardest with dd, and despite dds problems I still managed to teach her how to read stage one books before she started school and I reinforce school work at home to stop dd getting behind.

What gives her the right? I know I've judged back but I wouldn't have if she hadn't said stuff to me and behind my back!

AIBU to think she should concentrate on her dd and stop bitching about mine!

I think you should both wind your necks in! Goodness sakes, I can imagine hostel living is hard enough without worrying about what other people are or are not doing with their children.

Keep yourself to yourself and avoid getting embroiled with this woman.

I know it's hard in a hostel when space is limited....but the only way for you to cope at the moment and use your energy on yourself and your DD is to ignore.

I would avoid her to be honest. Don't get personally involved. Keep your head down and in your own room or out when you can.

I had to live in a hostel when my ds was a baby and its hard not to get annoyed about others when they live so close to you.it just adds to the other stresses you have of being there in the first place.. I just kept my head down and stayed in my own room the whole time I was in.
I feel sorry for the toddler :(

She is being unreasonable. Avoid her if you can. She sounds like a bitch and it's not worth the effort trying to explain yourself. If she corners you, then stick up for yourself, though, as this will prove you are not scared of her and won't be bullied.