to expect DH to take out ALL the bins without prompting?

[Wewereherefirst]

This is a common bone of contention I have, its his one definite job, to take out the rubbish and recycling.

He occasionally (weekly) empties the indoor recycling box, and will take out the kitchen bin when it's overflowing, but he never ever fucking remembers to empty the bathroom and bedroom bins before bin day.

AIBU to expect DH to do this job without me asking him to do it?

It's only a small thing but it annoys me so much.

YANBU. My husband has to be reminded for everything otherwise I'd end up doing it all. I don't do the bin out of principal but I still have to remind him!

YANBU this is the one thing i ask of DH as its the one think i cant stand doing but her always needs asking to do it, cant you see the bins are full you irritating man!!

Talk to him. See if you can swap another job with him as this one's obviously not working out.

YANBU.

But my DH is the same.

Yanbu

This must be a man job.

I have stopped reminding him. The bathroom bin he empties every other day now.

And the bin I leave til it's daft overflowing. Because its his job. I have enough to do. That's his one definitivejob. He might leave it one day, but its normally emptied in the morning if he hasn't done it the light before.

He's learnt the hard way though. Bags ripping, smelly nappies, bin stinking etc.

Leave it. He'll learn. You're not his mother.

It's a job, not a 'man job'.

It seems to me that having only one definitive job, is probably what's causing the forgetfulness.

Try dividing the housework more evenly and see if it makes a difference to how seriously they take running a home.

Eurgh, DP does all the bins (only have 3 inside the house anyway, though they tend to get emptied as and when by whoever notices) on bin day, takes them out to the front of the house and brings them back in again if they have been emptied before he goes to work. He has been known to oversleep and chase the binmen up the street in his pants!

Worra- what could be easier than emptying three bins?

My husband is a lazy bugger, I'm not his mother, I may job swap with him. He can do all the housework while I kick back and just empty the rubbish.

At least I'm not BU, it does suck that many of us are having the same problem!

Worra- DH also has the outside areas and windows to do, but the inside has naturally fallen to me, I'll try dividing the housework more evenly...

I would honestly try because things like outside areas and windows etc, are really weekend jobs aren't they?

I'm just trying to think that if I didn't contribute to the normal every day running of the home, I'd probably forget to empty the bins once or twice a week too.

I do see what you mean Worra, he does muck in with stuff indoors, but it's different jobs depending on the day/time he's at home as he's on shifts.

I was going to do a responsibilities list for DS1 but I may make it a family responsibilities list and see how we get on with that, a family meeting shall be planned so I can delegate we can discuss who does what

This must be a man job.

WTAF?

We don't have bins in the bedroom or bathroom. Everything has to go in the proper bin that way :)

I get the dc to do the bins now. I stand with a black bag at the bottom of the stairs and send them off to find bins. It's almost a game I get them to sort the recycling too. But then the eldest are 11, 9 and 6 so more than capable!

I haz no manz :( I have to put my own bins out and manage my own outside - oh pitty poor me

YABU just do it your self if it needs doing - waiting for somebody else to do it and seething inwardly is very passive aggressive

Chill cheddz

I only meant that before I posted it was only men that had the bins as their 'job' to do.

Christ, I can offend anyone and everyone it would seem.

But why on earth should I do everything when there's a capable man there who SHOULD help out.

When he works away I do everything, when he's home I'm not his slave.

I do the bins as DH will just shove things into the kitchen bin until the fecking thing is jammed full and then he wonders why it won't come out without ripping

He takes the wheelies out on bin day though - he gets up earlier than me. But he never reads the sticker on the recycling to see when it's that week, he just copies the neighbours, so if nobody has put their green bin out ours just sits there full for another two weeks. No biggie - if the recycling bin gets too full, it's him that has to drive to the recycling centre with the overflow.

we both do the bins if need be and we both do whatever else if needs be. We have no his and hers jobs at all. That would make life so complicted

It's just I see so often on MN that it's the man's job to do the bins. It makes me feel stabby. What is it with some women that they have to type when discussing putting the bins out? These are the same women who can deal with piss, shit, snot, blood and vomit on a daily basis without batting an eyelid

This is not directed at OP BTW. YANBU and your DH needs to do a lot more to contribure. Just bringing a little bugbear of mine to the thread.