Aibu to not get this 'point'

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A friend had a beautiful baby boy 3 weeks ago and all's going great. Myself and another friend called in to see them and she told us that her dh had gone out the night before and arrived home with a few drinks on board about half one. She said she woke the baby for his 2am feed and gave him straight to dh to look after! She went back to sleep, then woke dh again at 7 to get up and look after little man. I can understand the getting her dh up in the morning, maybe, but I can't understand giving your baby over to someone worse for wear, even if it was the Dad! But my other friend nodded along and said she did her business right! They said it was all about setting the ground rules...

I understand that she would want to set ground rules, but maybe not a good idea to hand baby over if dad was arse holed. He might have dropped him.

Say if he fell asleep with the baby in his arms & suffocated it or something? People aren't in control of their senses whilst drunk so should not be left in charge of a newborn. Very stupid thing for her to do.

Game on to her! She did her shift while he was out. I'm sure she wouldn't have passed the baby over if her DH was incapable and I think she and your other friend are right about the ground rules thing. (I wish I had been less of a mug!)

Absolutely yanbu. Giving the care if a child to a drunk person is a crazy thing to do.

Ridiculous.

Absolutely ridiculous.

Life doesn't have to stop entirely when you have a baby - both of you should get to go out with friends and have a social life and when you do the other one should look after the baby.

What she did was unfair to both her DH and her DS.

'Setting ground rules' - right - well, I hope when she goes out for a night he does the same.

Pathetic.

No I don't get it either. Whenever dp had a couple of drinks when dd2 was little I sent him to sleep in the spare room while dd2 stayed in bed with me. I wouldn't have trusted him with her if not completely sober, the same way he wouldn't have trusted me with her if I'd had a couple of drinks.