to ask wwyd about kids and video games situations?

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Ex h insists on allowing D's to watch 12a films regardless of content and though I've discussed it with him he doesn't listen and seems to relish my reaction when I hear what the latest is. Actually I'm open minded and always judge films by reading up the BBC info or viewing myself. Also I don't think D's will copy stuff he sees or have nightmares necessarily but think adult themes are just that; they can confuse children and upset them even if it seems normal..
Latest inevitably is that ex has bought him COD but much worse asked him to keep it a secret. Tell me how do I reason and discuss this with someone unreasonable wwyd?

what age is your ds? My sisters boys are 7 and 9 and they both play COD and watch films that I wouldnt let my 9 year old watch. What sort of films is he watching?

He's 6 and has seen hell boy, hobbit, lotr, amazing spiderman, sky fall. Ex ignores any discussion because 'he's not scared' ..annoyed cos wx told him not to tell which is actually more of a problem imo

far too young at 6, i wouldnt be happy either

Couldn't it be considered abuse?
I don't know how far you'd want to take it and alter the current contact your x has, but there must be some sort of intervention.

Not being scared isn't the point - the desensitization is more worrying really.

COD is more worrying to me because its a mainly online game, the majority of people who play it love tormenting younger players who shouldn't be on there. He'll learn a lot of new words. .

Far far too young.

DSS' mum bought him an 18 cert game for Xmas. He is 11! I told him he would not be allowed to play it here if he brought it round.

COS is not mainly an online game, it has an offline and an online campaign. If he can't get online, or doesn't have the microphone active then he's not going to be talking to strange people on the internet He is far too young to be playing it though, he might not be scared but it does play on a young child's mind. The previous COD had a mission which you could skip if you wanted as it was so controversial. Red rag to a bull though, bet no one did!

PS - I play a lot of games but think that the super-realistic where you are killing other people is too much for children.

I would be furious and sad at the same time. Especially about him telling your ds to keep a secret from his own mother.

I don't know what I would do, but it would be something as I just don't feel as if its the right thing for a little boy to be doing. My dh plays it but when the dc are in bed as he doesn't want them to see. (Stupid open plan living).

I am very flexible on ratings and whether I allow my 9 and 5 year old to view them or not.

My 5 year old has seen a couple of 12's, but many I have deemed inappropriate for him, same applies to my 9 year old.

The 12 ratings are, in my opinion more open to judgement than say a 15 or 18.

YANBU regarding CoD though, it is extreme violence in my opinion and as a game, you're not being 'spoon fed' you are actively involved.

Even though I'm flexible and don't always stick to the guidelines I was livid when my eldest son's friend's parents allowed my son to play Grand Theft Auto on a playdate... !

I had a friend who allowed their 8 year old to play World Of Warcraft, he begged me to allow his son into my guild, was never going to happen. His son ended up giving it up because 'people were mean to him' (naturally) and my friend blamed the game! Grrr.

When it comes on online activity I am very cautious, even some age appropriate games are off limits.

Thanks for replies. I'm actually not a ratings stickler but this is mad.'It's made me aware of otherthings that he is not safeguarding properly with e.g internet and recently talk of him being taken shooting!

I don't get it, there's plenty of time later to play violent games with your child, why call an end to their innocence at 6?

Grand theft auto is never going to be allowed in my house. My 'young adult' DC's agree with me - it's a disgusting nasty game.

COD is NOT suitable for young players. It is not just that it is violent it is the fact the game play is too intense for young players. Its even worse if played online.

There are loads of fantastic games suitable or 6 year olds (mario etc)

I would not be so worried about 12 movies but it depends on the movie and the child.