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AIBU?

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To think people should not be shopping with children

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Domjolly · 24/02/2013 17:23

Went to 24 hour tesco on friday night it was about 1:30am and i was shocked how many people were doing a full shop with kids in tow

Not getting bit and bobs in aemegancey they had a full trolly full and the kids were ranging from about 4-11 and it was a few seprate familes

There is so circumstance i can think of were your children need to be up at 1:30am doing a full shop with you

these were not small bairs these were school age children

I totally understand the frazzled mum in a onsie grabbing some calpol after a bad night of high fever

But under what other senero should a child be up at 1:30 period let alone doung a weekly shop

No wonder teachers have a time of it with kids to blinking tired to work

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MrsKeithRichards · 24/02/2013 17:52

Operating do please but together a list of acceptable reasons and ways in which to behave for my future reference please.

PurpleBlossom · 24/02/2013 17:54

I secretly judge those people too OP.

I mean yes they could have been up already with a screaming baby, or needed to drag their children out of bed for some emergency milk but chances are that isn't the case.

Oh I also (pre DD) happily parked in CP bays because you shouldn't be shopping with children at 2am

BambieO · 24/02/2013 17:55

But maybe the emergency was that they were having an all night children of the night party and the clowns and entertainers had run out of food and small animals to aacrifice?

Seriously, who knows and more to the point who cares why someone has taken their (emphasis on their) own children out shopping at what we would deem an ungodly hour.

I'm sure they have their reasons, I can think of other things to do at 1:30am sleep but everyone is different

Iteotwawki · 24/02/2013 17:56

I've done a full shop at 1.30am with kids in tow. On more than one occasion, for different reasons (jet lag meaning we were all awake being the most recent).

During the school week they are in bed by 7, asleep by 8 and up at 6.30 for a proper breakfast.

YABU.

Rowlers · 24/02/2013 17:57

1.30am?
Madness, IMO.
Can't think of many occasions when one really couldn't wait till the morning.

SoleSource · 24/02/2013 17:59

You have no idea of their reasons so YABU.

Chiggers · 24/02/2013 17:59

There's no school on a Saturday, so the DC could sleep in and catch up on lost sleep. The DC may have been so tired they needed a long nap in the afternoon, and so were unable to sleep later on. I know that I was so exhausted after school that I would fall asleep as soon as I went upstairs to my bedroom and I couldn't keep awake, despite getting a full night's sleep.

Maybe the nother took them at that time because they were awake and there was far fewer people to make nasty, unwarranted comments, AND there would be fewer people at the checkouts, so she could go, get her shopping and get out ASAP.

TBH, I don't see the problem. If she was initially out to get emergency supplies, then she may as well get the shopping while she was there anyway. It saves petrol having to go there and back again the next day. I would have done the same thing.

MrsDeVere · 24/02/2013 18:00

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usualsuspect · 24/02/2013 18:02

Maybe the were Mnetters? doing it to see if anyone started a thread about them...

Chiggers · 24/02/2013 18:02

mother not nother

mamalovesmojitos · 24/02/2013 18:02

YANBU

Nanny0gg · 24/02/2013 18:05

I'm happy to judge.
It won't do them any good to have such a late night, school or no school. It's called a sleeping 'pattern' for a reason.
They'll be beyond useless at school on Monday whether they sleep all day at the weekend or not (and I bet they don't).
Short of it being a stop-off on the way back from holiday I don't see the justification. (and even then I'd rather go back home).

And don't tell the OP off for judging. That's what 99% of the the threads are for on forums.

BeechAvenue · 24/02/2013 18:07

usualsuspect. Is there a dares thread on here somewhere? MNetters challenging each other to bag tables in cafes and refuse to fold huge prams onto packed buses, then rushing back here to await judgement?

Suzieismyname · 24/02/2013 18:10

coming back from holiday is the only sane reason I can think of. Children should be in bed at 1.30am.
YANBU

beatlegirl · 24/02/2013 18:13

I'd judge too OP. Like a lot of threads on here, it's possible there are special circumstances, but it's more likely that there aren't.

I'm trying to think of a situation where I'd shop this late with kids. Back from holiday/kids ill and up anyway? Maybe. But not likely a full shop. I've also waited up until midnight for my wages to go in before, to nip out and get breakfast for the next day. But that would not require a full shop either.

BambieO · 24/02/2013 18:13

Maybe they were all indeed coming back from holiday this changing the YANBU to a YABU? That's the thing no one knows!

Dogsmom · 24/02/2013 18:15

I once sent my husband to Tesco to get me the latest Harry Potter book when it was released at midnight, apparently he was the only normally dressed adult man stood in a huge queue of kids dressed as wizards

BambieO · 24/02/2013 18:16

Unless you see these children at 1:30am every week there is no way of knowing if there are special circumstances or not.

I do agree children need their sleep so I'm not siding with the moonlight shoppers but I just don't see how we can criticise without knowing why they are there?

BambieO · 24/02/2013 18:16

dogsmum that is brilliant

Alliwantisaroomsomewhere · 24/02/2013 18:17

I think it is bloody ridiculous taking kids out that time of night. So YANBU and all this crap about not judging people irritates the fuck out of me. We ALL judge people sometime or other about something. Some are more judgemental than others but we ALL judge / assess / sum up / evaluate.

ChewinTheFat · 24/02/2013 18:23

Maybe to avoid massive crowds and people tutting at the kids getting in their way. People saying "why drag your kids round a supermarket on a busy Saturday". Canny win!

OrangeLily · 24/02/2013 18:23

I posted pretty much the exact thread on the 23rd of December and got a bit of a roasting for being judgey.

I don't normally shop at that hour either but was awake because of pain so decided to get a bit to fix a Christmas present.

It wasn't just one family but several but evidently there was several good reasons why toddlers need to be in a 24hr supermarket at that that time.

But then the reason I was there because I was in pain and pacing the house was diving me nuts. So.... Who says the toddlers weren't in the same position??

DioneTheDiabolist · 24/02/2013 18:23

YABU. I think all parents who have to take their DCs shopping should do so at stupid o'clock. That way I can do my shopping in peace.

jojane · 24/02/2013 18:25

I must admit to being very judge the other day, popped into Tesco after work at about 11.30pm, couple were in there doing a full trolley shop with a 2 year oldish in tow, he was whining and the mum was saying I know your tired etc, I did think that one of them could have stayed home with te baby instead of dragging him out at that time of night!!

WestieMamma · 24/02/2013 18:29

My daughter has AS and was never in bed before 3.00am. 4 hours sleep was the most she ever had and that was if I was very lucky. I spent the first 6 years fighting against it and trying to get her to bed a proper time. Then I gave up and went with the flow. I didn't drive so my dad would sometimes take us shopping on his way home from work. He finished at midnight. She's 19 now and still only sleeps for 3 or 4 hours per night.

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