to think sod it all and run away for a couple of days?

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Well not run away but go away for a couple of days to stay with my dad and leave 3dcs in the care of stbxh and dp?

I'm 15 weeks pregnant with dc 4 I'm exhausted amd still feeling really crappy so am a little short tempered.

It would mean leaving two men in charge of 3dcs under 5yrs old and 2dogs, the men get on great but neither are fantastic with keeping house so will come back to a bomb site.

Would in an ideal would love to take dp with me but he is busy with just starting a new job whereas I can take my work with me.

I feel a bit guilty for even thinking of going so AIBU?

It would also mean having to split my weekly budget and making sure DP is capable of dealing with any financial things that may come up.

YANBU.

So long as your STBXH and DP are capable of keeping the children safe and happy and fed, I would take the knock on the housework front and go, recharge, chill out, have a massage and generally get a little respite from life.

The world will not end if your standards aren't kept up for a few days. So long as you're prepared to come back and think "ARGH!" do it.

My DH does things VERY differently to me, but the children actually enjoy it when I go away for a few days, they miss me (and the routine of me) but find it rather exciting that DH doesn't expect them to make their beds etc., I KNOW I'll come home to stockpiled housework, but it's worth it.

Their dad is has different standards to me so I know if I go they will eat nothing but crap food (which they love) and will probably end up going to school in the wrong uniform or clothes that doent fit that well but thats liveable.

Coming back to a destroyed house concerns me last time I went away for 24hrs I came back to a tip so a few days away is worrying.

However this time DP will be here so hope he would maintain some sense on what has to be done as he won't want me coming back stressed.

Just concerned as my youngest is also going through a clingy stage so I dont

Hit post too soon meant to say I don't know if I can leave her.

go but take the children.