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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Aibu to feel sad, lonely after having a glass or two too much to drink

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Olderkidsaremine · 23/02/2013 23:01

Grotty year so far and probable getting worse, don't normally drink but decided tonight I would and now feel very sad and alone :(

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TheOneWithTheNameChange · 23/02/2013 23:03

Alcohol is a depressant. You need a sugar fix to help bring your levels up. Sweets are good or chocolate.

Do you want to talk about it?

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 23/02/2013 23:05

Have water then coffee.

(Part of the reason I don't drink is I become Instant Arsehole- just add alcohol )

Talk though, people are here if you want to..

oopsadaisymaisy · 23/02/2013 23:05

I know it op but when tonight is over get up in the morning and start some positive thinking. Its all in the mind. Life is good, you are great and things will get better. Life can be lonely but you have to change your mindset. Things will only get worse if you let it. What's going on?

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Olderkidsaremine · 23/02/2013 23:07

Thanks, thing is I knew I would feel bad and somehow wanted someone to feel sad for me - how attention seeking is that!

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oopsadaisymaisy · 23/02/2013 23:08

Perfectly acceptable to attention seek. This is a good place to do it. Why do you feel sad?

TheOneWithTheNameChange · 23/02/2013 23:10

Don't think of it like that. Everyone needs a virtual hug every now and then.

thornrose · 23/02/2013 23:11

Older - I do the same thing, don't feel bad. We'll give you some attention.

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Olderkidsaremine · 23/02/2013 23:19

I have a thread going in health about my Dad - he's got lung cancer and has been in hospital since Monday, found out this evening he now has a problem with his heart! Not only that but mum had a mini stroke because of the stress, boyfriend dumped me, cat got run over and then on Wednesday my aunt died. So really bad start to the year, don't normally drink - don't like the out of control feeling - but I did. Nothing positive is happening and I just feel really bad that everyone seems to think I'm OK and I'm not.

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thornrose · 23/02/2013 23:21

Oh god you do have a lot on your plate. It's awful when you have to " be strong" for everyone else.

oopsadaisymaisy · 23/02/2013 23:25

That's an awful lot to deal with and no way to glide over it. This is heavy duty stuff and not sure you can do anything other than experience it and seek support. I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this. We can listen. You're definitely not alone.

PoppadomPreach · 23/02/2013 23:26

I think you should feel to "attention seek" here - it's what a forum like this is for.

whattodonow1 · 23/02/2013 23:26

Just wanted to send you a big hug x x x

WilsonFrickett · 23/02/2013 23:27

Do you know what? Just wallow in it. Put on your favourite weenie or sad song, have the fag end of the bottle and let it all out. Cry till you are a river of snot.

Then have a pint of water, two paracetamol and a slice of toast and go to bed. It will be better in the morning once the headache goes but for the next half hour, give yourself permission to just sit and feel shit.

((hugs))

WilsonFrickett · 23/02/2013 23:28

Weenie = weepie, as in film ^^

McNewPants2013 · 23/02/2013 23:31

Sorry for the loss of your aunt.

Be kind to yourself you have had alot of bad news ( hugs)

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Olderkidsaremine · 23/02/2013 23:36

I'm in bed feeling that no one knows how bad I feel and I'm not really sure that they care, I've always been the strong one - brought up kids by myself for years without any input from their Dad etc, but kids have all grown up now and don't live at home so there is no one to hold me and let me cry, and as their mum I probably wouldn't let them see me in this state anyway.

I know there are some positives - mums recovered, cat has also recovered, boyfriend well we are still friends (but if we hadn't arranged something for later in the year I don't know if we would be) still doesn't make it better.

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thornrose · 23/02/2013 23:46

I think when you are the strong one, people just assume your fine. I don't think they don't care. (Based on my experience)
I'm guessing you find it hard to ask for help or admit you need support?

Punkatheart · 23/02/2013 23:50

We care.

What a lot you have had to deal with...how amazing are you as a human being.

Better - it will get better....

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Olderkidsaremine · 24/02/2013 00:13

Just feel that any man I have feelings for are going to go and leave me. Ex husband did, boyfriends have, Dad will - although he won't have any choice in his decision. Brother hasn't once phoned to check how I am, just assumes that I am ok. Its just easier not to rely on anyone then you can't be disappointed and let down.

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oopsadaisymaisy · 24/02/2013 10:18

Morning OP, how are feeling this morning?

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Olderkidsaremine · 24/02/2013 10:59

Hi, no headache so that's good! But still wallowing in self pity! You are the first person to 'talk' to me this morning! Just confirms that the people who should me the most assume I'm coping.

Unfortunately I know this year will get worse before it gets better so I'll just have to get on with it.

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oopsadaisymaisy · 24/02/2013 11:57

I'm glad you don't have a headache. Have a wallow, no harm there but try to be kind to yourself too. Think of something nice you can do for yourself today. I'm planning a candle lit bath and a good long soak. Hope you manage a better day today.

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