Is dh being unreasonable ? (to not allow dt's friend to come and play again?)

[nothingbyhalves]

DT's friend came round to play for the first time today. He is a lovely lad (aged 3) has always seemed quiet a well behaved. When he got here he was clearly really excited and running around shouting etc. Whilst playing he was banging the doors quite roughly and had to be told by his mum to stop, but then he picked up one of dt's toys and threw it breaking it. His mum then took him home rather sheepishly.

She did reprimand him, I would have been a bit firmer, but I'm quite strict. When I told dh, he said he didn't want this little boy coming to our house again. I disagree. There are times when I go to other peoples houses and dt's are a nightmare. Its give and take , isn't it? Little boys get excited and hyper?!?!

Bit OTT. Kids are kids. The child isnt a delinquent, just a bit excitable.

He is BU.

He's 3! Is your DH a bit of a control freak?

I'd probably leave a big gap and have him back when he's a little older 4 or 5. I don't really like play dates so they are a real treat for my kids when I actually do one. I think at 3, I would not bother anyway.c

DH is BU, if the child was older i'd say he had a point, but 3 yrs can be quite unpredictable.

How much hands-on dealing with children does your DH do?

Having said that, I have never invited children that young to play (like Scootee).

To be fair DH not a control freak, just peed off and toy was one he had bought specially for dt's for their birthday. Also he isn't used to play date behaviour as he is in work, and weekend play dates to take place in park etc

He is being unreasonable.

Please don't think DH is a unfeeling control freak! He is lovely with DT's.

I would expect nothing less than a bit of mayhem when kids play, damn it I would even demand it.

Just put away the imaginary fine china and go nuts. That's my ethos.

Kids will be kids of we let them.

he's probably just irritated in the heat of the moment. i've said "ugh, i'm never doing x again" after being irritated at something, but after a while i get over it. i'm sure he'll be the same :)

Kids break toys all the time. He can't have a cry every time toys get broken

He is BU

I stopped having a mum over who had a very excitable small child. But the mum did not address his behaviour.
Your friend's child is only 3 and the mum took him home and I assume apologized, so just put special toys away before next play date. Problem solved

Are you married to Mariah Carey?

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when you have play dates over

you need to put away any toys your dh you or DT will be upset if broken
and then let them get on with it

I always put away the precious things when anyone had a friend over, even friends aged 5 or older. There's an 11 year age range here, and some of the older ones were teens with iPods etc by the time the younger ones had little friends over, but there were things with sentimental value that were put in a cupboard for the duration too. Plus I had rules about what toys could go outdoors and what toys stayed in.

My DP is not the control freak in our relationship thats me but he says things like that when hes cross or in a negative mood. Get him on a good day and he'd be sympathetic to the mum.

I dont think your DH sounds like a control freak. He is BU though.

DH home and has said "these things happen" so I guess livinginwounderland was right.

Hes only 3 so wouldn't write him off as a devil child just yet!

However, I prefer to not have other peoples 3 year olds round. Especially when the make mess, break stuff and smear banana into my couch.

Better not invite any three-year-olds round if this is as an issue.

I'd not be too harsh as a first offence

Glad your DH has calmed down. I bet the mother was mortified.

Before I opened this thread I thought you would be talking about teenagers.

In future put away any toys that are important and then just keep an eye on him. Chances are that the more he comes over the more he'll calm down and behave.