To not want people touching my pregnant belly?

[Cunninglinguist03]

Every time I see certain family members they ALWAYS push on my belly or squeeze it together to try and feel baby/get baby to move, I am 17 weeks PG so it's not like they can feel baby anyway.

I have told these family members that 'I don't like people touching my belly' and they just laugh, tell me not to be so ridiculous and carry on until I have to physically move away from them to 'Go to the toilet'.

These are also the same family members who say that orgasms can harm the baby so I shouldn't have them at all, I had them with my DS and he is perfect. Could someone please tell me if I am wrong to do this?

I also worry about bumping my belly into things and when DS kicks me/sits on me and they call me ridiculous.

So AIBU to think that because I am pregnant it isn't an invitation to be pushed/squeezed?

AIBU to not worry about having orgasms?

And AIBU to generally worry when I bump I to things/DS kicks me?

Perfectly prepared to be told IABU, I just need others opinions on this as no one in my family seems to agree with me.

Slap their hands away.

YANBU!

What a load of repressive crap about orgasms harming the baby. How would that work, really? The mind boggles.

YANBU about the touching....I hated it as well. I don't mind if I INVITE someone to touch it, but I'm funny about personal space etc anyway.

Orgasms are fine as far as I know, I had them and all was OK.

YANBU to be worried about your bump, but the odd knock or bump shouldn't cause a problem. Your baby is well protected. If you get any pain though, best to get checked out.

What is it with people who think pnce youre pregnant, that youre public property??

Warn them that next time they ignore your space and touch your belly after repeated requests to stop, you'll either honk their boobs/manboobs or slap their arses. Give them three warnings and then enact.

That'll teach them.

Orgasms are fine for the baby.

Yep, I agree re the belly touching. It used to make my belly itch when people touched it - why not tell them this?

Re DS kicking you - the child is quite well protected. Your DS will hurt you before he harms the child.

YANBU about not wanting touched. YANBU about wanting orgasms

However, I wouldn't stress too much about the odd knock or bump. The baby is well-protected inside you so your toddler being over-boisterous may be painful for you but is unlikely to harm the baby.

Good grief I would never talk to anyone in my family about having an orgasm ewwwww!!

I don't think they harm the baby at all surely is the same as coughing, sneezing, breaking wind? They don't harm the baby!

Oh and YANBU on the touching

Hold their hand/wrist away from your belly as you tell them, failing that rub THEIR belly and see how they like it!

The orgasm thing: smile and nod, smile and nod, change subject. Ask about their sex life & orgasms as that's equally inappropriate.

Is it your family or in-laws? If in-laws, ask DP to have a word. Or don't see them as often as they'd like.

Both things would drive me up the flipping wall! Yanbu.

Re kicking/bumping bump, don't worry too much. Obviously your dc shouldn't hit/kick you, perhaps say 'that hurts mummy' rather than something baby-connected or your ds might start to resent sibling. If it's accidental, don't worry, foetus is well-protected :)

In my 2nd pragnancy there was one person who kept trying to touch, but I did warn her that if she kept touching I'd slap her arse.

As people in the family know I've got strong shoulders and arms, she decided not to risk me slapping her arse and didn't do it again.

YANBU at all. I went to a birthday dinner the week I told my friends, cue them and a few acquaintances touching my belly... Eh I'm 12 weeks that's my summer holiday not a bump! Now I'm 26 weeks and people are always reaching for it. Definitely tell them not to but I'm afraid most don't listen

Orgasms can hurt the baby? Actual LOL with additional projectile tea-snort. Tell them to stop wanking whilst touching your belly, the dirty buggers.

Slap their hands away. Gross invasion of personal space. I can't stand maullers.

And what is with everyone talking to everyone about their sex lives? Is nothing private these days?

Yadnbu!

Being pregnant gives rude people a license to cross the line and feel entitled to an opinion on everything relating to you, your pregnancy, your baby and your parenting!

Use your hormones as an excuse to be rude back and.put them in their place.

Thank you so much for the replies.

They mention orgasms as they see this as a potential danger and they want me to be aware of it. It's generally along the lines of 'I hope you're not having orgasms either as this can cause...' Followed by a smile and nod from me. I started to question whether this was true! So glad to know that it is normal.

I will be trying the 'Touch my belly, Ill touch yours' approach! I can't believe I never thought about this before, failing that I will have to stop them physically touching me as it does bother me.

Thank you for the advice regarding DS thinking I am a 'punch bag' I will be saying 'You can't hurt Mummy' from now on and moving him away.

I had more orgasms on a pro rata basis when pregnant than I care to mention and no harm done. 2 of the 3 were 2 weeks overdue so they don't trigger early labour.

Now this is childish yet satisfying - when someone goes to touch your belly, shout BANG!!! as loud as you can. I can guarantee they won't try it again. if they object, blame your hormones.

2 of the 3 kids - not orgasms - d'oh. And don't shout bang at your DS obviously.

I always told people not to touch me when they approched with jazz hands. My mother was horrified when she knew my sister was having sex when pregnant, let alone having orgasams. She said some people are like bloody animals

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The orgasms thing is bollix, obviously.

The orgasms thing is definitely rubbish. And I found this if you want anything more formal.

I had to very very firmly tell my Dad to keep his effing hands to himself this time round. I dreaded meeting up with him as he always wanted to touch the bump. I am so glad I did, as he has been very respectful this time! YANBU. At all.

YABU to worry about orgasms. They are fine. And good for you mentally! And good exercise use for the uterus. Go and have one now!

Hold their hand/wrist away from your belly as you tell them, failing that rub THEIR belly and see how they like it!

The orgasm thing: smile and nod, smile and nod, change subject. Ask about their sex life & orgasms as that's equally inappropriate.

Is it your family or in-laws? If in-laws, ask DP to have a word. Or don't see them as often as they'd like.

Both things would drive me up the flipping wall! Yanbu.

Re kicking/bumping bump, don't worry too much. Obviously your dc shouldn't hit/kick you, perhaps say 'that hurts mummy' rather than something baby-connected or your ds might start to resent sibling. If it's accidental, don't worry, foetus is well-protected :)

How the buggery did i double post that?? Sorry.
As you were.

I thought orgasms were good for the baby as it sent more oxygen through? Mine must be lightheaded with all the oxygen she's been getting for the last 38 weeks

Re the bump touching tell them firmly, I had this with my DM and I told her outright I didn't like it, she was p'd off but tough, it's not like she's touching the baby, she's touching my belly fat.

YANBU. Perhaps you should start fondling them in inappropriate places when they touch you without permission.

The orgasm thing is untrue. I think it's actually the opposite - all that extra blood and extra endorphins going round is probably beneficial to the baby, and certainly is to you.

i don't think anyone should touch your belly, or anywhere else, if you don't want them to.

and your orgasms are your own business.

your ds shouldn't be kicking you! discourage that.

I have no idea why once you're pregnant people assume you're public property. Maybe grab their stomach and see how they like it.