To think this should be private

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Friend is four months pregnant. She is happy but admits it was unplanned. She has one DD4 already. Timing isn't great for her but there it is.

However she's been telling everyone that asks about pregnancy that she considered a termination but changed her mind. I mean everyone, even my FIL.

Fair enough, she considered it, changed her mind. But AIBU to think this is something for close family or friends only? I consider it private matter and of little consequence now apart from in years to come when someone might tell the child they were nearly aborted.

I dunno, am I being a stuffy old fart?

It's oversharing.

All I can say is that she's giddy with relief....that she's made the choice. I had this with one of my pregnancies...I went to see about a termination and couldn't do it...the timing was terrible but once the choice to have the baby was made, I was high as a kite....ridiculously happy. Your friend may feel the same and can't help herself.

It IS a rather sensitive subject but if she's happy to talk about it, it;s her choice.

I dunno you are willing to post about it on the internet, even annonymously so obviously you don't think it should be that private. Just saying!

I thought the same as Bejeena!

Personally, I wouldn't share something like that but it's up to her if she wants to, it's her pregnancy. Some people are just very open, there's nothing wrong with that. Sometimes being open and gettin people's reactions is a form of support that can help people cope.

I really don't think this is worthy of judging her over.

From an objective point of view, I would guess that she is telling people about her decision to reaffirm that she made the right one. She tells people so that they will say "Oh, am so glad you changed your mind."

She's probably very scared and needs that confirmation.

Perhaps you should be more understanding. It's her situation, not yours.

I don't judge her- it was just my initial reaction to think I really didn't need to know that. I should clarify we are friends but not close friends who would share personal information.

yanbu - if someone I didn't know very well told me that, I wouldn't know how to respond and it would be awkward.