To think that the "reusable nappy crew" are on par with the "breastfeeding only crew" when it comes to hysteria?

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They both come out with that old chestnut "it doesn't take extra time or energy".

The reusable nappy crew keep emphasising how much money they save. How the disposable nappy parents are "harming the environment" with their non-biodegradable nappies and baby poo.

They try to make disposable nappy parents feel bad IMO. The same way those breast feeding mad mothers do.

Ghoul you feel guilty for using reusables?

Why

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Hear hear ghoul! I breastfed but used disposables but of course cloth nappies are better and far more responsible. The op is showing herself up in all sorts of ways - and I bet she carries on doing so too.

I used reusables on mine - not because I was saving the planet but because I had a baby that was allergic to disposables then couldnt see the point in not using them on the other two, I breastfed all three as I am a lazy bugger and hated getting up in the night and found it easier to BF them. I went to a BF group but we talked about other things than nappies and BF'ing, usually cake and choc and lack of sex drive.

You want to use disposables then do it, want to formula feed then go for it, if it works for you then it works for you.

I realised long ago that I will always take the easier route if possible. That is why I BF when my babies were small, FF when I returned to work and have always used disposable nappies (I know this is not good for our environment, just put bin out and it is majorly heavy due to DD (10mo) having teething diarrhea these last few days). Friends of mine have chosen different ways of feeding and cleaning their babies. None of us give a shit about the difference in our choices, we're too busy slagging off our OHs chatting!

It isn't the baby's disposable nappies that will ruin the environment, it's the car they will drive, the tons of food they will consume, the flights they will take. It is environmentally unfriendly to have children, personally I don't think using cloth nappies makes a huge difference.

The only person I have met who wanted to talk about reusable nappies was paid to do so by the council. She was an absolute bore about them, a bit of hysteria would have livened up the conversation considerably.

Eh I did both of both. DS#1 was in sposies and was mixed fed. DS#2 was in cloth and ebm. Breastfeeding was never easy for me, but it did have some benefits for me (and of course a lot for DS).

I did find cloth nappies easier and I do think they were more environmentally friendly. I am not terribly organised and would forget (or couldn't afford) to buy nappies and would have to do a special trip to the supermarket for them. I got to the point I could make a cloth nappy or a cover in 15 minutes and would often use old tshirts and other recycled clothes so I could dig in DH's closet and make a nappy in the time it would have taken to get us all dressed/shoes/in carseats.

I was also suckered in with the cute factor. Even the sposies I bought for DS#1 were Benetton ones that were really colourful (and cheap and fit great)

Cor, I wish there had been a reusable nappy crew when my DS was little. We could have sorted ourselves out with badges and matching jackets, like the pink ladies.

I did get quite a lot of curiosity though about his nappies though (his massive bum was blooming obvious) and I like to think I answered questions politely without proselytizing but hey, you've mentioned a couple of my answers so who knows, maybe I was leaving a trail of upset in my wake when I told people that they were cheaper, or that care of the environment influenced my decision.

What should I have said to not cause upset?

Or was I doomed to cause offence anyways because I was a "breast feeding mad mother" who fed her child till 2.5 and again, didn't deliberately proselytize but I didn't hide it and would honestly answer questions from friends, who were again, largely curious.

So on balance I reckon you are BU and pretty offensive too.

gimmecake I don't really see where I've shouted or have been childish. I have my opinion and don't want to be preached at what is right or wrong. The only people showing themselves up are the ones making slanderous accusations about my motives.

process, seriously how I offended you? . Have you even read the thread? I am talking about people who have preached to me about how reusables are better without me prompting for questions or being curiosity. Do you really think people will have got offended by you when they've asked questions themselves? Stop finding a reason to get offended.

Who's arguing? If you think you're arguing, then you really shouldn't be posting because this is a discussion.

I don't really give a crap about saving the planet tbh. I use cloth nappies and bf because we couldn't afford to do otherwise. It simply saves us that much money. You do whatever you want with your money I'm happy with our decisions.

Wonder why you feel the need to be so defensive though. Has someone been guilting you? Don't let them. You make the decisions that suit you and your circumstances. Noone else's business.

I used bottles and disposible nappies for my 3...I assume I'm going straight to Hell

IME reusables either work for you or they don't. We tried them and after having them leak yet again, decided they weren't for us.

I have my opinion and don't want to be preached at what is right or wrong

Then why on earth have you started this thread?

Seriously, some people DO care a lot about the environment. They WILL be evangelical about disposable nappies (or not. One of my friend is VERY eco friendly but thinks that eco disposable nappies are better than re-usable ones re carbon footprint and damage to the environment. But on the other side, she would never use wipes).
People making comments about the fact they use reusable could be 'boasting', trying to 'impose' their way as better or very simply (and most likely?) very sure in their beliefs that this is better. They might even want to try to explain why this is so.
But then if you don't want to be preached at what is wrong or right... I suppose you can only take it in a negative way....

No, BF is not always easier than FF. Cheaper yes, but not always easier.

The gallons of water/ chemicals/ electricity used to wash reusables make a bit less environmentally friendly than people make out. Especially if they are not done at home and are collected and redelivered by a company in their van.
Disposables are not environmentally friendly.

It's the virtuous ones who try and make out they're better mothers because of the way they do things who annoy me.

I think YAbu, based on my own experience.
I use disposable nappies. My best friend used reusables and she never crowed about it. She did explain her reasons for doing so and I can't escape the fact that disposables make a massive contribution to land fill.
I bf both my children. It's best for them, and the only banging on I ever hear is from mothers who ff, Criticising my choices.
So I guess it's different for everyone.

Another thing... It amuses me when people state that cloth nappies do this or cloth nappies do that - have yo u seen how many different styles there are?! It's like saying I don't bother buying clothes because I bought some once and they didn't fit.

Also, to Tatty - microfibre feel dry against the skin and you can buy all in one styles so you don't have to do waterproof pants over the top.

I'm not proselytising, but I can't let inaccuracies stand, it's just too damn irritating.

And something else...if you use too much detergent to wash nappies it affects absorbency. Most cloth using mums I know use eco balls or eco eggs, so no chemicals.
So yes, we use lots of water, but that's not really something the uk is short of and out house came with solar panels which helps with the electricity use, so I allow myself to feel eco smug for using cloth nappies, but as previously stated that's not why I do it...

I use disposable nappies - aware reusable would be better.

But have not noticed any "crew" or been made to feel bad for my choice.

So yabu - just as others make a different choice doesn't mean they are judging yours. I bf but don't judge others choices -in rl see no angst but on forums it will be parents who ff taking offence to people bf and stating their reasons for it.

I both breast fed, and used cloth nappies because I am horribly lazy and terminally broke. I co-slept for the same reason.

I couldn't care less what you do. HTH.

We use washable nappies and they are a PITA :) The landfill issue with disposable nappies bothers me, I have this image of future generations wading through 500 year old nappies. But its a personal choice and it wouldn't cross my mind to mention it unless someone asks me why we use them and then I tell them the truth, what they choose to do with that is nothing I have any control over. I did the maths and they do work out cheaper in the long run, especially if you use them for more than one dc, each to their own. Didn't breastfeed because I couldn't, would have loved to, but I did enjoy the benefits of bottle feeding, not sure DH felt the same ;)

miaw Well said!