about MY car?

[TaggieCampbellBlack]

We have 2 cars. Both a bit old (12 and 13 yrs).
DHs is the 'family' bigger one. It is like a sodding tank.
Mine is small and crap and a bit falling apart. It is my first car. In my name. Driven mostly by me. Full of my crap and stuff.

DH has a new job. He will be needing to drive 25 miles to and from.

I drive 9 miles to and from my job.

DHs car drinks petrol. Loads of it.

Mine is desil and very economical.

DH has just announced that when new job starts we'll need to swap cars. He'll be driving further and more days. Financially it makes some sense.

But.

My Car!

It is Mine.

My little crap car.

I don't want him taking it over and I don't want to drive the big tank car.

And my travel costs will go through the bloody roof.

I don't want to swap.

AIU to refuse? Is he U to expect to swap?

It honestly wouldn't have bothered me. To be honest I don't think it would have even been an issue that dh and I would have a proper discussion about - its logical not to spend more on fuel than necessary.
I have no attachment whatsoever to my car though.

I can't imagine it's going to add that much really if you only do 18 miles a day

It came up in a car discussion while we were driving along.

I need to find/make 10k so I can justify my new car.

YANBU. I would hate to swap. He'll just have to learn to drive more economically.

I would present him with a cost analysis of buying a new car for you vs his petrol expenses.

Do you do any other non-work driving, e.g ferrying kids to clubs etc?

The other argument is that if you work shifts and often have to drive in the dark, you want to do that in the car you feel most confident and comfortable in.

The announcement would piss me off.

I understand how you feel. I cried when I sold my first car.... and when someone totalled my second car... and when I had to sell my third car because I was moving contries...

But I still think you are being unreasonable, because in the end of the day it is just a car. And even though I cried in the three instances above, things happened that way because it made financial sense. So... mourn your car for a while and get over it. Your family prosperity is more important than an object, a car.

Good luck :)

We are in exactly the same situation - him with a horrible tank car, me with a nippy Toyota Yaris, him working 15 miles away 5 days a week, me working 10 miles away 2 days a week.

I know it's a waste of petrol, but we keep it this way because we use mine for all weekend driving (his is only used for holidays or if we need to go out separately at the weekend). Using only mine at weekends offsets a good part of the additional weekday petrol money. So, the DCs car seats are in mine, and as I am the only one that does any ferrying of DCs during the week I have to have my own car not DH's.

It's just a car; it is a tool to get to work, that is all.

But it's my tool.

I get it, I really do. I'm precious about my car too.

But that said dp and I regularly swap, his car doesn't fit three kids so if I'm going somewhere on my own I take his car so that he's not housebound with children and if he needs my bootspace or is taking the kids somewhere he takes mine.

I grit my teeth and swear under my breathe when I get it back and everything had been fiddled with though

We have the same, I have a 12 year old car which is all mine and I love it with all its imperfections. DP drives a tank that guzzles diesel because its so big and costs a fortune.

Economical or not, no way would he be getting my hands on my car. Plus I hate the way he drives it. Change gear already!

yanbu.

make him sell his car and buy a more economic one.

he doesn'tt have to use yourcar and it's your car

Poor wee car.

I know how you feel. My brother wrote off the first car I learned to drive on and I was so sad.

But - new car!