aibu to wonder if the chubby babies become the overweight children?

[honeytea]

Today me and ds went to our first "mummy group" all tge babies in the group were 2 months old. Ds is huge, he weighs 6.6 kg (almost 15 pounds) he is

DS 2 was 10lb1oz and never lost an ounce and piled on the weight. He was like a mini sumo wrestler but at 5 is just tall and slim, so no, I don't think the two go hand in hand.

He can't sit unaided but if he is on my knee rather than leaning on my chest he will sit with a straight back, I hold him around his waist.

DD was born on the 75th centile, was ebf and on the 99th centile at 2mo and just got more and more rolls of fat until she started crawling at 9mo at which point her weight began to stabilise and then, over the next 9 months, as she increasingly moved off food & onto solids, she gradually went down to the 9th centile! Whereas I had to shove her thighs into the bumbo when she was 3mo, now she's 3yrs, she can sit in it really easily! She's now just below the 25th centile.
She was also born with total head control & was sitting unaided at 15 weeks. It was a bit of a shock when we had DC2 and had to actually support his head. He didn't sit until 24 weeks and I found it really annoying as sitting baby is so much easier to entertain that one who is lying down!

In my family all the chubby babies became strapping, tall and lean young people (and were lean toddlers, too).

Ds 12 was 8 5 at birth, never lost any and seemed to gain a stupid amount of weight. In those days we weaned at 16 weeks and he had a full jar from day one - none of the I've cube tray freezing

Tbh at one point he looked like Phil Mitchell

Now at 12 he has def not kept the weight although eats all the time - def not overweight

Not in my experience.

DS1 was a chubby baby, but started to slim down at about 18 months old and is now incredibly skinny.

DS2 was an even chubbier baby, and is a chunkier child - but he has much more muscle and I can still count his ribs with ease. He is not quite 2, so I expect that he will get slimmer yet.

Some babies are just properly fat though, and if that continues past 2 then I do think that yes that can be the beginning of an overweight child.

No, don't worry. DS3 was hugely chubby until he was five. Now he is 16 and a noodle.

Mine went from huge babies, to sturdy toddlers, to tall and lean by the time they were five/six

super baby OP!

I like this thread ALOT as got told my toddler might be overweight yesterday, well meaning HV.....

and we feed him well and he is active

another 9.5lber

I think he is robust, not chubby personally

Right I have just read the OP properly.

honey you don't need to think about reducing calories at all. Give him healthy food when you wean him, and free access to BM until you decide to stop. All will be well.

Are you ok? I've noticed a few threads from you and you seem a bit anxious about things, do you think a chat with whatever the equivalent of an HV is where you are might be a good idea?

Ds2 (ebf) was like a little buddha with moobs, despite having reflux and me eating hardly anything due to bad PND. His weight gain was phenomenal - 1 3/4 lb in a week was his record and he was right at the top of the chart.

He's 6 1/2 now and there's not an ounce of fat on him although he does still feel pretty heavy and he was very proud to tell me that he's not the tallest in the class (he's kind of average height) "but I am the heaviest Mummy"

I have to say though he seems similar in build to my brother, who at 30 has a tendency to carry a little extra weight - but I think that is beer related more than anything!

OP No they don't. Next!

YABU dd was ebf & like a chunky little Michelin girl. Now at just 3 she is so tall & skinny people assume she's 5 & doesn't eat! She does, like a horse, but healthily.

Also not in my experience. DD was a total fatso up until 2 1/2. She's tall and skinny now.

Do I need to work especially hard to avoid ds becoming chubby in childhood? Any idea when I need to start to restrict calories?

I find that line in your OP very very worrying.

You are making food issues where non occur.

Try eating properly with plenty of outdoor exercise and you'll be fine. But for Godssakes - do not get hysterical about every ounce.

No they don't I have found.

Three out of four of my dc have been above 8 pounds and in fact my youngers daughters have been nearly ten pounds, all three have been chubby babies but are all lean, fit and active dc.

I've never restricted food either but they all eat plenty of fruit and veg but have their fair share of stodge

My sister's first was a chubby baby certainly compared with her cousin who was only a few days older. Her 2nd was 98th percentile. 1st lost the roundness when she started walking, 2nd is a bit slower to lose it but also on her way.

Not in my experience, my two both looked like sumo babies (so fat they looked like they had multiple elbows/knees) but then at around 2 years it all went away and now they are like whippets.

They were both EBF until 8 months or so, and still BFing at about 18 months when it started to taper off.

I don't restrict their food, they have access to lots of excellent, healthy food at all times, I don't stress about junk, we don't really have any at home at all but if they/we are out and about they can have some. We eat 3 meals a day, I don't offer snacks but don't restrict them either.

Seems to be working, they are both bright eyed and bushy tailed.

Thanks for all the advice :) I do worry a huge amount, I tried to tell my hv I worry about everything but she just said it is normal to worry lots as a mother, I feel like it is more than normal pfb worrying but I'm not sure what she could do anyway.

I live in a different country to my family and my in-laws are not hugely supportive crazy so asking advice on mumsnet is really helpful!

My nephew was such a chunk as a baby, he waddled not walked his first steps. He's now 15, over 6 foot tall, and a beanpole. We're hard pressed to find any fat on him at all

OP, please stop panicking. And please don't think about restricting calories, or wishing your baby would sleep less, or any of this stuff. You are, and I mean this kindly, being utterly bonkers.

My two girls were vastly different at birth; the first was 50%ile everything and is now a 4 year old lanky string bean (and tall! I don't know how, since DH and I are...not tall). DD2 was a 97%ile chubster with what the midwife called "croissant arms", and at 14 months she is pretty much exactly the same size and shape as her sister was at that age.

But you know what, some children will be fatter than others. Genetics are strong. But the worst thing you could possibly do would be to restrict calories early, or make it A Thing, or obsess about it. Just offer healthy food, model an active lifestyle, and LOVE YOUR CHILDREN. Maybe they'll be a bit fat anyway? Who cares, if they're healthy.

DS1 was 8lb10 and 61cms at birth. He was a very chubby toddler but lost it all around 2. He then chunked up again at about 9 years old. He is now 11 years old, 6 feet tall and 60kgs (135lbs), so perfectly proportioned.

DS2 was 8lb5 and 59cms at birth. He was a MASSIVELY fat baby and toddler. He was very solid but not fat until he turned 7 when he started getting taller and slimmer. He's now 8 and is extremely tall, solid but not an ounce of fat on him.

DD was 5lb11 at birth she was the fattest baby you have ever seen. She didn't overeat and although we were worried had nothing wrong with her. She is now 5 and still slightly chubby but not overly so. I expect her to go the way of her brothers and lose all that baby fat by the time she's 7.

My kids do naturally hold their weight, so we do have to be careful with what they eat. They have to do lots of physical exercise to keep them at good weight/height ratio and not overweight. I know I am the odd man out on this thread, but I do see some correlation between my much heavier than average babies and their weight as they have gotten older.

Given we are not a family who eats fast food, my kids don't drink soda or juice (just water or low fat milk), it's obviously just in the genes (I was a humungous baby and toddler but slimmed out and stayed that way since I was 8/9).

DS was so fat at 14 months that he couldn't walk. He couldn't lift his weight up to stand and looked very bloated.
He began walking at 16 months and by 2 years, had lost the rolls of fat.
He remained slim from then on.
Fast forward 20 years and he is actually underweight at 6'3 and 10 stone 9lb.
He eats like a horse but can't put weight on.
If he had been very overweight after he'd been walking for a few months, I may have asked for advice then but pre walkers are supposed to look chubby aren't they?

My ds was 10lb 5oz born. He put on weight so rapidly despite being EBF that he was 19lb 13oz at 13 weeks old. But then put on no more weight for the next 3 months despite getting longer.
He is now a healthy active 9 yo but he looks as though I starve him he is so skinny.

Try not to worry so much. Comparing your child to others is a recipe for disaster.