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to think this is an odd way to announce you are getting married?

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LordoftheFliesTime · 20/02/2013 17:21

A group of 5 of us met for lunch today, 4 of us are being bridesmaids for the 5th one and it was a kind of meet up to discuss dress styles etc.

When friend said to the bride - "we're going to a wedding fayre on Saturday if you'd like to come?"

... We were all a little Shock Confused and said - "so are you engaged then?"

To which she replied - "No, we're not engaged and I haven't got a ring, but we are getting married"

OP posts:
Booyhoo · 20/02/2013 19:32

you're not in NI by any chance OP?

amandine07 · 20/02/2013 20:03

FruOla that is very amusing!

cardibach · 20/02/2013 21:30

'Engaged' is the convenient shorting of 'engaged to be married' ie it means you have agreed to marry. THat's all. So if someone is going to get married, and especially if they have booked a date, they are engaged, like it or not, use the term or not.
THere is no requirement for a ring or a big party or any fuss. WHen I got engaged I did have the ring, but no party and no fuss. Just told people when I saw them.
That said, I'm not entirely sure whether or not YABU as it isn't odd to 'announce' you are geting married by mentioning it in that sort of context...

LRDtheFeministDragon · 20/02/2013 21:57

Oh, she just didn't want to make a fuss. Leave her alone.

FruOla · 21/02/2013 07:19

amandine07, can you imagine the thread in AIBU if that had happened these days? Grin

I barely knew the B&G - I'd met them once and was there as a +1 and never saw them again - but I'd have loved to have been a fly on the wall to hear what they had to say about it afterwards. Wink

Longdistance · 21/02/2013 07:25

I announced a friends 25th wedding anniversary on our wedding day, and another friends engagement.

Meh, I don't see the fuss about 'it's my day'. Your friend probably didn't want to steal your other friends thunder.

HecateWhoopass · 21/02/2013 07:31

We didn't get Engaged. In that we didn't announce we were engaged or have a party or show off the ring or anything.

Good job really, since it turned out to be the ring he'd given his ex and when we decided to get married - he went down to get it back off her! Shock Grin

We just said to people "we're getting married on X date"

But we met in the december and married in the march, so there really wasn't time to faff about with engagements Grin

Maybe being engaged (or even having a wedding) isn't really what she's bothered about. Maybe she just wants to get married?

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