To expect a thankyou for this?

[bedmonster]

A while back, DP and I gave our friend some money to go towards her DDs school trip. At the time, she (the mum) thanked us and went home to give her DD who is also DPs God daugter, the money to take to school to pay off the trip.

Now, months later, I have seen the DD a handful of times and she hasn't ever mentioned it. She knows that we paid some money off, her DBro mentioned it at a get together at Xmas. I would certainly never mention it, but AIBU to think a 16 year old would have the manners to say thankyou?

(I would just like to add, I love this family very much, would never bring it up and am just a bit miffed that she hasn't said thanks - and I don't think they should be bowing in gratefulness at our feet forever!!)

YABU. You were thanked at the time and your contribution didn't make any difference as to whether she went on the trip or not.

Perhaps she's confused as to why you gave the money? I know I am.

Her mothers financial circumstances didn't seem relevant when I wrote the OP which is why I have deliberately avoided it. For some it will seem like the dreaded 'drip feed' whereas for me at lesat, I don't think it's relevant to my AIBU, as money aside, I still think it's good manners to thank someone for, well, anything.

Thanks for all your comments, as I said I am not going to bring it up with anyone, I have no bad feelings about any of it whatsoever, was just wondering if anyone else thought I was BU. I am, it's okay!! I am leaving the thread now as I have my answer.

How patronizing of you, to wade in and contribute to other childrens school trips like you are some scrooge mac duck benefactor, and then going around expecting eternal gratitude?

I agree.