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To think the new trend for engagement pictures taken by professional photographers is daft t?

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ComposHat · 19/02/2013 22:05

I was browsing Facebook the other day and noticed that a number of newly engaged couples had comissioned sets of professional done engagement pictures. They all looked generic and very stagey. Happy couple walking through a wood hand in hand, happy couple pulling lovey dovey poses, showing off the engagement ring etc. Sort of like a Hello! spread.

AIBU to think this. latest and most absurd example of wedding mania, undertaken by the vain and those with illusions of granduer?

WIBU for me and my fiancee to put up a series of spoof engagement pictures? Gazing at each other with rapt adulation whilst swigging supermarket lager in our vest and pants or eating the same noodle from a pot noodle Lady and the Tramp style

and then out the pictures up on Facebook?

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gwenniebee · 19/02/2013 22:08

YABU. It's just another way to pressurise people into spending money.

I'd love to see your pot noodle pics :)

AmandaCooper · 19/02/2013 22:09

Please do the vest/Pot Noodle shoot!

MsAkimbo · 19/02/2013 22:11

YANBU. Engagement photos are a pet peeve of mine.

Why do you need pictures of before you were married (professionally)?

What does it contribute to the wedding/marriage?

Who frolics in leaves in fancy clothes?

/rant over.

My DH and I contemplated doing a zombie engagement shoot since our wedding was around Halloween. My mother was not amused.

So you MUST do the spoof pics. For the cynics like me Wink

SirBoobAlot · 19/02/2013 22:11

YANBU. Please do the spoof pictures!

Weightlessbaby · 19/02/2013 22:12

We had some done; because we knew the photographer, who did it for free, and we'd never had any prof photos done before. They did not go on FB.

If I'd known it was going to become a trend I may have gone a bit more to town on it!

Spoonful · 19/02/2013 22:13

I did like the zombie ones.
The rest are naff.

ceeveebee · 19/02/2013 22:14

I've never seen a professional engagement photo unless you count Wills and Kate

babiesinslingsgetcoveredinfood · 19/02/2013 22:14

YANBU

Angelico · 19/02/2013 22:15

YABU. Our photographer did them free as a sort of 'get to know you' thing. He does them for all weddings, the idea being it makes you a bit more comfortable having him take photos, he meets a few of the family if you want and everyone feels at ease getting photographed on the day. He took some really nice ones for us and it made me feel less stupid getting photos taken on actual wedding day.

MrsKeithRichards · 19/02/2013 22:15

It's the wood ones that puzzle me. I was at a workmates wedding, middle of town registry office then a pub. Great day. Then the photos went on Facebook and there were shots of them strolling through a wood. I was like what the fuck? There was no wood any where near any of it. The got some photos done outside, in the registry office, the official dude was only there about an hour.

PandaNot · 19/02/2013 22:15

It's a US tradition which is working its way over here, like proms.

NamelessHereForEvermore · 19/02/2013 22:15

Never seen such a thing. Would have trouble giving a shit one way or another really. Not my bag but if it's making the couple happy and keeping a photographer in work what the fuck business is it of anyone's?

Waswondering · 19/02/2013 22:16

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Unlurked · 19/02/2013 22:16

Lots of photographers do a 'pre-wedding shoot' so that they can meet you properly, get an idea of what you like and get you used to being in front of the camera. I was very sceptical about this when our photographer said she wanted to do it but actually I think it did get us used to having a camera lens shoved in our faces before the wedding so in glad we did it. We didn't put any of the photos on fb though. I don't think I even bothered downloading them from the website the photographer put them on...

But even though we kind of had them done I still think Yanbu.

Offcolour · 19/02/2013 22:16

Yanbu. I've seen these when snooping on the vile bully from school's Facebook page (yes childish I know). They show her and df in quirky vintage gear frolicking in hampstread Heath, with a load of twaddle from the photographer about what a lovely couple they are. Puke.... Why, why, why would you think this is necessary? All about showing off.

Littleturkish · 19/02/2013 22:17

Some people like it to get used to the camera if they're camera shy.

I haven't and wouldn't do it, but I love GOOD portrait photos, and therefore don't object.

Now if it's bad photography...doesn't matter what the occasion is! I don't like it!

MrsKeithRichards · 19/02/2013 22:20

Must admit the ones I have seen weren't so much engagements but just before the wedding so probably a free get to know each other thing.

Skimty · 19/02/2013 22:21

Ours was a freebie but we looked for it because BIL had terrible photos of his wedding and we wanted to check out our photographer to avoid the same thing happening to us.

Never put any photos on facebook anyway, but these were done seven years ago! (Fuck I'm old face)

LRDtheFeministDragon · 19/02/2013 22:24

Do it! Grin

Spoof ones would be fun.

I don't think it's that new a trend though. Posh people used to get a photo in the paper with their engagement announcement, back in the day.

ISpyPlumPie · 19/02/2013 22:24

Well, the only 'engagement' photo DH and I have is a slightly blurry one taken by a kindly random the day after we got engaged on holiday. Feel we're rather letting the side down now....

2kidsintow · 19/02/2013 22:26

It's not a new trend.
My DH and I got engaged in 1992. When we bought the engagement ring, we were given a free photo shoot. :)

We did it. It was fun. The photo is a bit cheesy to be fair, but it has good memories.

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ComposHat · 19/02/2013 23:03

quirky vintage gear frolicking in Hampstead Heath

Remarkably broadminded of her!

I'll get me vest ironed ahead of my close up.

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WilsonFrickett · 19/02/2013 23:21

Definitely not a new trend, I have my grandma's engagement photo somewhere. Although it was during the war so maybe that was why?

fatlazymummy · 19/02/2013 23:24

If the couple pay for them with their own money it's their own business really.
Each to their own.
I'm not on facebook, so I don't see them anyway.

midastouch · 19/02/2013 23:25

YANBU i think its silly and a bit cheesy too but if it makes them happy then who am i too judge

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