To not tell my DS's dad my D.O.B?

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My ex has just emailed me asking for my full address and date of birth. He has said this is to register for a DNA test, but there has been no mention of this before. He is on the birth certificate but he isn't allowed DS unsupervised due to concerns about his past behavior and violence.

He knows where I live so he could work my address out easily enough, but it seems strange to me that a DNA test would need my DOB in advance, surely I would fill in any forms at the time of taking swabs?

Is there anything else this information could be used for? I have though of passport, but I don't think this would be the reason, as he doesn't have him alone so I would be aware if he got a passport photo done of him.

Is it reasonable of me to reply saying "I will fill out any details at the time, please let me know when you would like the test to be carried out" or should I just tell him D.O.B?

He could be sending away for a DNA test online instead, so may need your details for security reasons. I'm pretty sure with those tests that you pay when you send the swabs in, but don't pay to have the swabs sent out to you so you could tell him you'll order it instead and he can give you his details.

Yes sockreturning you are right, I know this from looking into the legalities of DNA tests as dp's ex was going to swab him in his sleep and then secretly swab another child then do the DNA tests without consent from either dp's permission or the permission of the mother of the child she'd planned on secretly swabbing . She had a few too many drinks one night though and told someone her plan and showed them the hidden DNA test she had ordered.

Odd. Think you suggested reply is fine. I wouldn't give it without knowing precisely why he wants it!

He couldn't sign you up to a new doctors as you need proof of where you live (had difficulty signing OH up to new GP)

But..... with your phone number and D.O.B he could use the automatic appointment line to check on any appointments you have if your surgery has one of these.

I cant think of why he would need it for DNA unless its just his way of telling you

I am perplexed about how you could have a relationship and a child with someone without knowing basic info likes birthdays/ dob?

I am perplexed about how you could have a relationship and a child with someone without knowing basic info likes birthdays/ dob?

Won't he just work it out? He must know roughly how old you are and when your birthday is?

How well did you actually know the guy? He seriously desn't know your birthday, and how old you are?

HollyBerryBush He can't use the electoral roll to get a DOB, if the person has opted for their details to be edited in the public version. Certainly the case with my local council that only people with legit reasons to enquire get sight of the unedited version of the roll.

Maybe he doesn't know her DOB because they were not serious? Or not together long? Lots of reasons.
OP I wouldn't give him it

This thread is bizarre, tbh. he knows where I live so could work out my address easily enough. Wow, he's good...

tell him nothing. on principle.

Tell him to forward the forms on to you,and you'll complete all details relating to you.I wouldn't read anything too sinister into it though,like another poster said he could easily find it out if he wanted to (and he'd hardly alert you to any potential fraud by asking you directly for the info)

It's not that strange that he doesn't know your exact date of birth,he could easily be one of those people who just don't remember dates.