To feel cheated out of Mother's Day?

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It's on my ruddy birthday this year! That's simply not fair is it? I feel disgruntled that DH/DCs will presumably combine the two rather than making a fuss out of me on TWO days...

My birthday is Mother's Day too!

Have arranged DDs sixth birthday party for March 10th. Obviously I didnt realise the date and have now told DH he can be the hostess with the mostest

Op and tits. I'll be back here to wish you a happy birthday on the day.

I re read my post and it sounded much glummer ( i know its not grammatically correct but it's better!) than I actually feel.

Last year on birthday / my first Mother's Day ( 8days apart) I was still in a pain killer fuddled haze from a less than ideal csection recovery, bfing nonstop and worst of all living with an absolute tosser ( who for the record had to be "loaned" money for a present)

This one is going to be great. I will be forced to treat myself on my daughters behalf ( so wont get any crap). For my birthday I am getting a nice bottle of whiskey to make homemade baileys with
Not sure about Mother's Day though

My mum's birthday is on Mother's Day this year.

She also got married on her birthday and, as it happens, celebrated her silver wedding anniversary, 50th birthday and Mother's Day all on the same day one year.

Now that's being cheated!

Spare a thought for those of us who will not be celebrating Mother's Day this year because our lovely Mum died a few months ago.

Mgrg. Sorry for loss. I hope your holding up ok

Very sorry to hear about your Mum mgrg.

Tits - I'll be sending birthday thoughts to you, too!

Foggles - at your poor Mum! (She should definitely not have married on her birthday!!)

I feel for you op!

I never get a proper mothers day because I'm a single parent and my dd was only 5 yesterday. I'm lucky if the school get her to make a card... Oh well.

So no yanbu, you deserve a mothers day and a birthday!

Sorry didn't see post from mgrg... Sorry for your loss

Thanks HerrenaHarridan. It's really hard but I'm a Mum too so it's not like I can just go to bed and pretend it's not happening. Anyone got any ideas/advice about what we should do? My Dad is still alive and so is my Mum's mother (she's 94)?

The thing is...(and I know it sounds mean, particularly in light of mgrg's sadness)..

I usually don't get 'Mothers' Day' as such - because I spend most of it traipsing back and forward between my mother and MIL, making sure I've 'done' Mothers Day for them.

And I really don't want to spend my birthday doing it this year. (Would it be really mean to visit them on the Sat and tell them I'm having the next day off as it's my birthday?)

Sorry...x posted with mgrg.

Is it possible to have a family meal all together somewhere? Or is it too much for granny?

I've been cheated out of mine this year. Arranged big family meal last year for Mother's Day, with MIL as centre of attention, arranged lovely flowers for her, cards from all GCs, etc.

DH didn't even blardy remember a card for me from the DCs, was so focused on his own mother!

This year we promised a quieter affair, just my mum and us. No, MIL has muscled her way in again. Am . Have told DH I won't be lifting a finger, he is to ensure his brother and he do it all this time.

Agree having a birthday on Mother's Day is pretty rubbish though, OP!

My birthday is sometimes on Mothers Day :)
When is it this year? Not my birthday Mothers Day!

It's my birthday too! In fact it's my 40th. Oh joy...

Yep my birthday too - I kinda get forgotten now anyway as ds1 has his birthday 2 days before and even worse my two lovely boys are at their dads on a Sunday too - really rubbish birthday for me!!!

Grey lady it's 10th march

Swornout, I understand where you're coming from. and it does feel a bit like traipsing, but you never know what's around the corner for your Mum or for your husband's Mum. If you go on the Saturday though, I don't think they would mind. It's the thought that counts and as long as you take the time, I'm sure they'll be ok with that.

Thanks River :)

Thanks mgrg...I know I should be jolly glad they are still with us (and I am!) but part of me feels faintly grumpy each year that 'well yes...you raised us and thank you v. much' BUT - I have got 5 DCs who are primary/teens and I'm still doing all the running about for them. Somehow one day that is for me as an 'active' mother doesn't seem too much in a year. Instead I'm knackered because I'm still running round after other people and putting them first.

Oh cripes...I sound more and more spoilt and moaning . I started this thread lightheartedly and have begun to wallow as time has gone on! I'll shut up now and just be grateful I've got lovely children/Mums around. I didn't realise how surly I felt about Mother's Day each year until I wrote that post!

I'll do the Ma's Day bit on the Saturday I reckon!

Mgrg. I don't know if you have dc or not so its difficult to gauge but I would recommend spending the morning celebrating your mother somewhere special and the afternoon celebrating the living. I hope that doesn't sound harsh to you.
It's just that life does go on and any mother worth her salt would want her dd to keep moving life forward and to look back only with a smile.

To the pp who said the dc are going to ex. That doesn't have to be a bad thing! Welcome to the Mother's Day /birthday thread.
*hands over homemade baileys with a clink of ice

Op I don't think you sound whingy, it can be really frustrating feeling like you put in all the effort all the time then when it's finally supposed to be your turn.
Yy to mothering Saturday. Book meal. Do own cards etc. Get sil or equivalent to supervise hubby discretely

I reckon we should all meet up on this thread on the 10th and swop drunken tales whilst swigging Herrena's homemaid Baileys!

Sorry for your loss mgrg. The first Mother's Day after losing your mum is so hard.

My mum died 12 years ago, and even now I reallt struggle with Mother's Day, even though I'm a mum myself.

I think it's a nice idea upthread about remembering your mum in the morning. But in the end, you just have to deal with it in the best way for you.

I wish you well as you grieve

easy peasy baileys

Dd goes bed at half 7

Happy Birthday Herrena and anyone else who is celebrating today!

(PS...Where's the ruddy Baileys, girl??)