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to be angry with parents who bring their children to the swimming pool with upset stomachs?

27 replies

CorporeSarnie · 18/02/2013 14:21

DD (16mo) just got better from a bad cold a fortnight ago, back at nursery again. We took her swimming yesterday morning at local baths, last night she was off her food, then vomited all over her bed, then ours when I brought her in with us, then the nappies began this morning. I have no reason to suspect anything other than the swimming pool (she went on a bike ride with her dad on sat, & to my knowledge no other babies at her nursery have been sick). Am almost out of clean sleepsuits following vomiting and two leaky nappies, have had to do multiple loads of laundry already, and have had to stay off work to look after her.
AIBU to be wasting energy on being furious with the other people who decided that swimming with or just after a tummy bug wouldn't damage anyone else? There were tiny babies in the pool as well :( hope they're not poorly.

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Tulahoob · 18/02/2013 14:24

There's no proof that your DD did get the bug at the swimming pool, but in general people are very selfish and take their DCs out whenever they feel like it regardless of illness

iliketea · 18/02/2013 14:26

YABU - seeing as you probably shared her germs with the other people in the swimming pool blissfully unaware that she was brewing an upset stomach. She could have picked it up anywhere.

iliketea · 18/02/2013 14:28

YABU deciding that te swimming pool is the problem, unless you saw children actually vomitting in the pool (bleugh). Otherwise, she could have caught it anywhere - d&v bugs are rife at the moment.

specialsubject · 18/02/2013 14:30

YABU. You took your baby swimming when she was brewing up a stomach bug. Not being clairvoyant, you didn't know this. She might have caught it elsewhere and has passed it on to everyone else. Or there was another kid in the pool at the same stage.

it is a waste of energy to be angry. Kids get ill. Hope she is better soon.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 18/02/2013 14:56

Ermmm - are people expecting CorporeSarnie to have a crystal ball or the power to see into the future? How was she supposed to know her child was going to develop a tummy bug?

MrsTerryPratchett · 18/02/2013 14:58

She expects other people to...

Delayingtactic · 18/02/2013 14:59

STDG I thought that was the point - that other people could have been equally unaware their children were brewing infections and so can't be blamed?

It's crap that it happened and I'm sorry your little ones not well. Hope they feel better soon.

Rooneyisalwaysmoaning · 18/02/2013 15:04

Most of these infections are not communicable before the onset of symptoms, though some are (very few though)

The HPA guidelines are that one does not go swimming for two weeks after symptoms cease. I would imagine not many people are aware of this and of those who are, probably many think it unnecessary to wait that long.

Taking a child swimming before symptoms appear is unlikely to cause spread of infection. Afterwards is far more likely.

atthewelles · 18/02/2013 15:04

YABU to assume it was some parent at the swimming pool who was at fault. But YANBU re the selfishness of people bringing children out with stomach bugs or indeed, going into work themselves when they know they are still contagious.

Cherriesarelovely · 18/02/2013 15:05

Sorry your little Dd is poorly. It's horrible when they go from one thing to another like that. No way of knowing where she caught it, could have been anywhere. I thought you were going to tell us about a gruesome D and V incident in the pool! Hope your Dd feels better soon.

ll31 · 18/02/2013 15:08

yabu for reasons stated by posters... also am amused at no sick children in nursery... so no parents bring in child who has been sick but now seems ok, and they all tell you everythng!!! i

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CorporeSarnie · 18/02/2013 15:19

Thanks all, I think I knew IWBU really, but repeat onslaught of poorly DD is frustrating.

Nursery usually say something like 'we've had a lot of x' or whatever when she's had things that are going around there, but agreed, no idea what they've been told or not told.

Agree, it doesn't matter where she got it really, just that DH & I take care of her and get her well again. She's dozing next to me now after another bout of D, V has slowed up now but then she's only had milk/water since last night. Fingers crossed she'll be back on form very soon (but not swimming for a bit). Thanks for the perspective :)

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rodandtheemu · 18/02/2013 15:21

YANBU

I work in the lesuire industry and parents will send there kids in with all sorts. Impetigo , chicken pox,diarrhia...the amount of children i have to send back to there parents.

You are not allowed in our pool if you have had sickness and diarrhia for 48 hours later, but people still sneak them in. If they have an accident in the pool, it has to be shut down for 18-22 hours till it is back washed, while the parents slope of under the eye balling of several pissed off mums.

Tailtwister · 18/02/2013 15:26

People can be massively selfish when it comes to inconveniencing themselves. I'm always amazed when I see yet another chicken poxed child out and about when they are still infectious. It wouldn't surprise me at all if people don't adhere to the exclusion advice for D&V bugs.

Hope your DD improves soon.

MadameOvary · 18/02/2013 15:33

I have huge sympathy for the OP. I think she's having a vent. There are some selfish fuckers out there who think it's ok to send an obviously poorly child to nursery or play areas, or dose them up with Calpol to mask their symptoms Angry
DD has strep so is being kept off nursery at the moment.

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CorporeSarnie · 18/02/2013 15:53

Thanks MadameOvary (love the name btw, & hope your DD better soon as well). Indeed, was venting. Perhaps in future should steer clear of AIBU for venting purposes (skin thick enough to take it today tho).
DD now sitting on floor trying to put her shoes on, bless her.

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Cherriesarelovely · 18/02/2013 15:59

MN is ideal for venting. I remember Dd having a weird phase of getting bug after bug. It is incredibly wearing for all.

Lottikins · 18/02/2013 16:15

I don't think non-potty trained children should be in the pool at all.Ok the nappy might contain large lumps but water will still be circulation round the faeces and spreading faecal bacteria throughout the pool.

GingerbreadGretel · 18/02/2013 16:22

At our local pool, a boy threw up into the water. Fair enough, maybe, anyone can get caught out if a bug comes on suddenly. The mum took him off to clean him up.

While she was away the whole pool was cleared.

I was standing shivering with one wet child, waiting for my other child (in a separate pool) to finish a lesson and saw MOTHER AND SON COMING BACK TO GET IN AGAIN. She looked stunned and amazed that we were all out of the pool and was asking the lifeguards about it in an angry "well, when can we get back in" way - though she never, I noticed, owned up that it was her son that vomited.

After seeing that, I would believe anyone capable of anything.

drummerswife · 18/02/2013 16:34

i remember not long ago at dd's swimming lesson a child was sick in the pool.the pool had to be cleared and then had to be closed to be cleaned.as i was getting dd dried the mum was taking the boy into one of the shower cubicles and said to him 'you were telling the truth then about feeling sick'.poor little lad was so upset about being sick in the pool but she didn't seem to care less.

MTBMummy · 18/02/2013 16:41

YANBU - especially as our entire family have just spent 3 days all bed bound with high fevers and D&V.

It amazes me how selfish people can be - we're lucky we're a healthy family, but what if it had been someone who wasn't?

INeedThatForkOff · 18/02/2013 17:16

people still sneak them in. If they have an accident in the pool, it has to be shut down for 18-22 hours till it is back washed

Bit of an assumption. I have been one of those parents. All that happened was that DD swallowed water, it made her cough and that made her sick. Didn't realise until then how little it took to set her off.

You'd think we'd have presented the lifeguard with a fresh turd, the way he treated us. Wouldn't give us the money back when we couldn't go back for half a term while DD's chest cleared up though.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 18/02/2013 17:20

delayingTactic - the OP complained about people who brought their children swimming during or just after a tummy bug, and the others started snarking at her for taking her baby to the pool when she was brewing a tummy bug - which is clearly different, hence my crystal ball comment.

Trazzletoes · 18/02/2013 17:21

In all honesty, the chemicals in the pool water mean that it's very unlikely you would catch something off another child through the water.

Changing rooms and poolside are another matter though.

rodandtheemu · 18/02/2013 22:09

in need you'd be surprised. Being sick in the water due to drinking lots of water is V common, at our pool it just gets scooped out even if it is food waste too (a pot noodle one was the worse i think) lessons resume as normal .A poop is different... if its whole it gets scooped out and carry on, if it has disentagrated, diarrea or dispersed we have to close in the event of any one swollowing any - grim.
Ive seen parents leave there childs pooh ridden under ware or foot steps not even call for assistance to tell any one its there and snap drummer when a child had diarrea all down his legs his mum said '' ooh he did have a funny tummy this morning?'' WTF??

So yep it does happen and i wish it didnt .