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Original poster

to be cross at fucking gossips putting 2&2 together, getting 5 then spreading it?

27 replies

ohwhy · 16/02/2013 21:59

Matter of factly told friends on Friday that DH has taken a flat in the city where he works, rayher than continuing to endure hotels.

I've had 2 sympathetic comments today from other friends letting me know that they're here to support me and they're sorry.

DD2 came home ftom elsewhere and seemed upset and asked if we were getting a divorce. Poor child. I've comforted her and she's gone to bed reassured.

FFs.

Some people are idiots.

OP posts:
yaimee · 16/02/2013 22:01

Yanbu, twats, especially to let it get back to dc. just rise above it!

AgentZigzag · 16/02/2013 22:03

I'm afraid to say what I'm thinking because it'd look as though I was as bad as them Grin but could they know something you don't know?

Original poster
ohwhy · 16/02/2013 22:05

What donyou mean?

OP posts:
frustratedworkingmum · 16/02/2013 22:11

some people really do have too much time on their hands - not your fault they have empty lives and have to spred gossip that doesnt exist

MammaTJ · 16/02/2013 22:15

They need to GET A LIFE!!!

MammaTJ · 16/02/2013 22:16

A flat is probably cheaper than hotels, much nicer and always available!!

jinsymaw · 16/02/2013 22:21

OhWhy, please don't, or try not to let other people affect you! They mean nothing to you or your lovely family. Close the door on the world and enjoy your family. I have just been through a shit time with mums talking about my 10 year old french kissing a boy in her class! The scarlet woman that she is. I cannot believe how cruel some mums have been. Hope you get through this. Good to know that they re lots of nice mums and gals out there!

MammaTJ · 16/02/2013 22:24

jinsymaw, were there not also scarlet 'men' involved? Or is this the same double standard that calls women who enjoy sex with lots of men tarts and sluts and the men who enjoy sex with lots of women studs?

yaimee · 16/02/2013 23:25

jinsymaw poor you, horrible people. I can't believe these people are supposed to be the adults. Grrrr Angry that's just made me so angry on your behalf!

SoleSource · 17/02/2013 00:07

Oooh my neighbours do this shit. The pieces of crap!!

OkayHazel · 17/02/2013 00:10

Not divorcing, just getting your head down and getting on with your happy marriage is the best way to show them!

Don't rise to it, but reassure the kids.

aldiwhore · 17/02/2013 02:07

Try running a pub lol... my parents divorced, got back together, had sex with everyone in the village and divorced again according to the local shopkeeper when I was about 12.

I'm 38 now and recently asked my folks (who are still together) if there had been any truth in the gossip... they laughed and said that apart from anything else they were so tired with the long days they couldn't be arsed.

No point getting angry... have fun with the gossips if you can. Forgive those that have heard a skewed version though.

I have been known to reveal some made up things that are VERY OUTRAGEOUS about myself to people I know to be gossips... then sat back and giggled... especially when other people know the truth... it's a sad hobby, but it's very entertaining. At times. It only works of course if you tell a few other flappy mouthes the truth...

chickensarmpit · 17/02/2013 02:20

The rumours are never good though are they? They're always boring and lack imagination. Start one of your own, give the fyckers something to talk about or falling that just moon them.

TheSkiingGardener · 17/02/2013 02:39

How utterly tiresome for you, but how bloody irresponsible of them to let it get back to your DC. My DH got a flat when he was working away, it made so much sense and was a nicer place to visit than hotels all the time. He stopped putting on weight from hotel food too!

I'd be amused if it wasn't for your DC's upset.

FaffTastic · 17/02/2013 06:05

How far away does your DH work during the week?

poachedeggs · 17/02/2013 06:39

In your shoes I would hunt down the person who let on to your DD and personally rip a strip off them.

Sleepthief · 17/02/2013 07:50

MammaTJ, I read that as Jinsy making a tongue-in-cheek reference to her own daughter as a Scarlet Woman given what the gossip was about...

SPBInDisguise · 17/02/2013 07:56

I work in a different city and DH and I have considered doing this. Never thought about how it might be seen!

Sleepthief · 17/02/2013 07:57

Sorry, OP. it sounds like people who are unhappy with heir own lives trying to drag others down with them. It's shit, but rise above.

MammaTJ · 17/02/2013 08:09

Me too Sleep and I thought I replied in a tongue in cheek way in kind. Grin

Sleepthief · 17/02/2013 09:18

Aha! Note to self: do not reply to AIBU before brain has woken up Blush

Cat98 · 17/02/2013 09:21

Oh dear. I had a similar situation re a job at work - annoying. YANBU. Poor dd being affected too!

seeker · 17/02/2013 09:22

I wouldn't gossip or mention it to a child, but if I heard that a friend's dp was getting a flat in another town with no further information, I would most certainly check with the friend that everything thing was OK. Wouldn't most people?

amillionyears · 17/02/2013 09:27

I have discovered that some people get their wires crossed.
Can quite see how people passing on information to other people could get their wires crossed in this sort of circumstance.
And once the wires are crossed.....

I have a relative , who repeatedly gets her wires crossed.
And once she has told others the misinformation, obviously then the information they have been told, gathers pace.

Flobbadobs · 17/02/2013 10:39

I feel for you. DH went abroad on business for a few days before we moved house. As he was flying first thing on Monday morning he was staying at a hotel overnight so set off at teatime on Sunday. My neighbour is an absolutely horrific gossip at the best of times but when she saw him putting his bag in the boot of the car and driving off she went into overdrive. By Monday evening the entire street thought he had left us (I was pg at the time) and I kept getting people knocking on the door asking if there was anything they could do...
I have to admit I gave her hell for it, really told her off for spreading malicious unfounded gossip and implying that my DH would run off (with another woman apparantly) and leave his pregnant wife and 2 children.
YANBU, I would have ripped them a new one...

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