To tell DH I'm not cooking on Sundays, or food shopping for Sundays any more?

[Tulahoob]

I'm fed up with DH and the DCs just sitting around every Sunday whilst I do everything; housework, cooking, cleaning, getting everything ready for the week ahead, the lot. Other people seem to do family stuff all day every Sunday and I've just had enough of it being just another day for me.

WIBU when I told DH that I'm not doing anything on Sundays again and that we will have to eat out every Sunday? He seemed to think I was but I'm not going to be skivvying around after everyone else any more.

make it a family treat not a penance.There are lots of adequate carveries wher you an all go for a meal on Sundays.

If you can afford it, why not?

How old are your DC? Certainly housework should be shared with DH at the weekend, and age-approriate tasks for DC too.

YABU because you're not going far enough!

Why are they doing nothing and you're doing everything?

You don't make all the mess, why do you have to clean up all of it?

They live in the house too.

Why can't it be all of you shopping and cooking?
If you don't tell them how peed off you are nothing will change.
Or do what I would probably do...go on strike!!

You've described how my Sundays used to be.

We normally go out for dinner about once a fortnight now.
I do as much of the bits i used to do on a Sunday during the week.
I gave everyone jobs so we all were making an effort instead of me running around &getting seriously miserable with the family.
You need to change it as they don't see the problems,why would they? they are all sitting on their arses taking it easy all day!

Isn't there a middle ground?

I agree you shouldn't cook and clean all day on Sunday, but doesn't mean you have to go out every week. It will cost a lot, and you will still probably have the work of finding where to go, getting everyone ready on time to leave, etc.

What you could do is put the responsibility for Sundays on your DH, so either he sorts the food and cooking himself or organises takeaway or a meal out. That seems like a more fair split.

Also get everyone to do more the rest of the week so you don't have so much to do!

We mix it about - some slobbing, some preparing for the week ahead but, and here is the difference, everyone pitches in. The kids help with cooking, laundry etc (they are 3 and 1). They also tidy up their toys every evening.
I tend to go to the supermarket early on a Sat with the kids, while DH has a lie in, and then I get Sundays.
We have just made a trip to Tesco to pick up the bits online couldn't manage a fun trip out - DS1 bikes it, and DS2 ended up giving him high 5's from the pushchair after he had gone ahead slightly. We also had some races. Kids thought it was fun, we all got some fresh air, and exercise, and it got a chore completed.

why DO oyu do everything?

YABU because you don't make sense.

How can you "not food shop for Sundays"?

Do you eat special food on Sundays that cannot be eaten any other day of the week?

Will you say "no, you can't make toast with that bread, that's weekday bread"?

Do you and your husband work full time, OP?

How old are the kids? I'm certain husband and kids can share in the chores.

I assumed she meant a roast trills.

OK then YANBU not to do a special meal for Sundays.

I think the "Sunday" part of this may be a red herring.

In general your DH and DCs should not be sitting around while you do everything around the house, no matter what day of the week it is.

If you all pitch in you can get whatever needs doing done more quickly and then all have time to do as you please, whether that's a "family day" or just reading the paper with a cup of coffee.

If you just stop doing chores on Sunday (and take no other action) they will still need doing some other time.

Y might BU to expect to do "family stuff" like "other people", if the rest of your family don't actually want to do that.

I don't do the good shop at the weekend anymore.
I go in the evening whilst DH gets the children bathed etc, I get some time to myself and I can take my time.
Sundays we go out for either breakfast or lunch as I get sick and tired of cooking every bloody meal as well.