To think this is pointless?

[BumpingFuglies]

DP and DSs came to live with me and DS 6 months ago.

Here's the background:

DP was given full residency of his children following suspected abuse by their mother's partner. Mother was cautioned for neglect.

DP had nowhere to live at the time and so took the children to live with his parents. DP and I got together and things got bad between DP and parents. I offered them a temporary stay with me, parents objected and big row between DP and his mother.

They never went back as DPs parents refused to talk to him. We both tried repeatedly to get them to come and see the children but they refused. We offered phone contact in the interim - they refused.

During the time the children lived with them, they hit the children, used inappropriate language, swearing etc. Would not allow DP to parent or maintain a routine/boundaries. The SW involved said that they should not have unsupervised contact with their GPs.

Fast forward a bit, we get an application for Residency by the GPs. This is rejected by Court. Further application for contact, to consist of every other weekend Friday to Monday am, plus every Wednesday evening overnight. DP of course did not agree.

Family Group conference is suggested, the GP agree to it. Oh good, we thought, progress. But the FGC officer says they will not sit in the same room as us! They want to do "shuttle mediation"!

What is the fucking point? It's no different to going to court.

Thanks for reading.

Gruffalump thanks

GP's don't have parental rights, but a Court will uphold their right to see their GC unless there are compelling reasons against.

Yes, wrecked, that's my understanding as well. The problem here is that the GPs won't compromise AT ALL, whereas we will. I feel we have reached a stalemate.

Bumping

Thanks for clarifying that. They sound horrible but I have no advice

we all know they're only doing this to hunt/get at you. Feckin' oxygen thieves.

Oxygen thieves lindsay yep, that's a good description!

I think you are both barking to want the GP's in their lives - you are talking about controlling abusive people!

gimmecake we are trying to do what is best for the children and ultimately the choice may be taken out of our hands!

I can't see how any court would allow them access - let's hope not. Good luck let us know x

Thank you gimme I have a feeling this will be going on a long time