to sleep in the living room tonight

[ditziness]

baby is 9 months old. the last week she's been waking every 2 hours. Her best ever sleep is waking 3 times. She won't go back to sleep without me feeding her. I'm so tired, and sick of it. shall i sleep in the living room tonight and leave my husband to deal with her?

[DewDr0p]

OP it makes perfect sense to me. When ds2's reflux was bad dh and I both used to dread going to bed

[ditziness]

don't worry, we safely co sleep . I'm understand the issues and risks.

no i don't have pnd.

no spare room for her.

dewdrop, that's kinda what i had in mind

[DewDr0p]

Do it - you will feel so much better.

[ditziness]

right that's it, i'm getting the sofa bed out.

[gotellitonthemountain]

Sounds awful. I felt just the same. 9 months is quite old to still be needing such regular feeds. Have you had support from your health visitor?

You will reach the other side and you won't feel like this forever. Sleep sounds like a priority, however you can get it.

[SirBoobAlot]

It will pass. Know it feels like it's been this way forever, and will continue to be, but it really will pass. Promise.

[Iateallthejaffacakes]

Big sympathies, we have one who sounds very similar, and I remember 8/9 months as being an awful time in terms of night wakings and feedings and feeling like it was driving me mad. I don't really know what it was all about or what changed but it has now got better and she now (15mts) only wakes once a night- which is an enormous improvement.

[AlwaysWashing]

Would def recommend co sleeping. DS2, now 11 weeks had a period of about 6 weeks where he fed every 2 hours and co sleeping saved me. My DH could sleep through an earth quake & I find myself doing it all in the night unless I have a bit if a strop. Co sleeping meant that I could feed then lay DS2 down next to me and the closeness of my holding his hand or resting my hand on his chest was enough for him to settle - before this I was cuddling him to sleep sat up in bed, getting crap sleep myself and a sore back.
I don't think YABU to have a nights decent sleep once in a while. No it's not LO fault she wants feeding so frequently but by having a good sleep yourself you are not punishing her and you will feel tonnes better and able to function better for it.

[AlwaysWashing]

Worth mentioning that I didn't buy a co sleeping cot as they seemed comparatively expensive so bought the regular cot I wanted and left off one side. I wonder if lots of people do this or whether I had a clever moment!?!

[DumSpiroSpero]

Agree that consistent co-sleeping is worth a try - it's quite common for separation anxiety to be an issue at 9/10 months.

Perhaps you could try settling her with a top you've been wearing so that the sudden smell of 'mummy' doesn't wake her when you go to bed? I don't know for sure that it would help but I'd think it's worth a try.

[christinarossetti]

Sleep deprivation is hellish. Yes, do it, get a few hours decent shut eye.

Your husband can bring her in and offer her water. Do agree a plan of action with him beforehand though!

[MarilynValentine]

Poor you. DS was still is a poor sleeper. Sleep deprivation is so undermining, so upsetting.

DS took a bottle so, once he was four/five months old, one night a week DH would feed him at night with expressed milk, sometimes a bit of formula if I hadn't had the chance to express enough. It saved my sanity - knowing I had that one night a week to look forward to.

Obv your LO won't take a bottle but perhaps you could make your/Dewdrop's plan a weekly thing?

Also - your DH can take LO for walks on the weekend so you can have afternoon naps.

Just catch up with sleep whenever you can. Cosleep for daytime naps too.

[GadaboutTheGreat]

My sympathies OP, I'm in much the same boat with 9mo DS. He's going through major developmental stuff & teething all at the same time, feeding every 2/3 hours again

It is bloody hard isn't it. I often struggle with my feelings towards him too, after a bad night, but it's the sleep deprivation playing with our minds & bodies

Hang on in there, it will pass eventually and until then, co-sleep when needed.

[Scheherezade]

Put her cot in another room tomorrow eve, having srperate rooms made an instant, overnight change to my.ebf 6mo waking every 2 hours.

[Startail]

I found that by 6 months both my FF and BF DDs slept better in their own rooms. They kept me awake and I kept them awake.

I have thought you only need one night feed by now.

See if she'll settle for DH at least some times.

[ditziness]

Woo hoo! I slept till 430 and fed her then. Longest sleep I've had in a year. Wow. Doing that again tonight

[BambieO]

Ah congratulations OP! I have been up all night with a raging cough hahaha no rest for us, once the babies settle it's something else! So pleased for you bet you feel grand!

[ivanapoo]

Great news, what do you think worked? That baby couldn't smell you or that your DH just slept until baby was making more noise?

[DialsMavis]

DS1 started sleeping through as soon as he had his own room... We moved onto a sofabed

[rainbow2000]

I found sleeping in the sitting room while they were going through growth spurts teh best remedy.
I often got better sleep cause there was nobody else to make noise and disturb them.
Often though its just an exscuse to raid the fridge(it was for me )

[rainbow2000]

Yes meant to say i put them in their own room about they slept through.

[DewDr0p]

Brilliant news OP. A night or two more of this and you won't know yourself.

[TeWiSavesTheDay]

Wahoo!

There is nothing wrong with night-weaning. We did it at 11mths, took about a month to really truly kick the habit and DS has slept through since.

I feel so much better, hope you do too.

[GadaboutTheGreat]

Btw, I moved DS to his own room just before 7 months. He still wakes for a bf up to 4 times a night

[ditziness]

She still woke up every hour or so, but the husband dealt with it and cuddled her and gave her water. So he's shattered today, and I feel not as bad as usual.