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AIBU?

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To be annoyed with friend

11 replies

mrsjrob · 13/02/2013 19:38

Hi first time posting been lurking for a while.my friend came over with her 2 dc aged 3 and 4,they went upstairs to play with my dc.i asked my friend if they would be ok up there and she said they will just sit and watch tv,when they left my dd came down crying because one of my friends dc had broken her wii.i text my friend and told her and she replied "oh well these things happen" .my dd is very upset this was a Xmas present so it's not that old,I did not expect my friend to replace it but aibu to expect an apology?

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Ruthchan · 13/02/2013 19:41

Your friend should have apologised. Maybe she is worried you will ask her to pay for a replacement, but she should have said sorry.
However, maybe it would have been better to put the wii away knowing that 3 and 4 year olds were coming to play. I wouldn't trust such young children with something like that.

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mrsjrob · 13/02/2013 19:46

Thanks for your reply my dd is 4 and she loves it and always plays fine with it,I was caught off guard by her visit as she usually visits when kids are at nursery,it was unannounced and during dinner but I will defo put things away next time

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aldiwhore · 13/02/2013 19:51

This is why TV's, Wii's, PS3's and other expensive goods aren't allowed in our childrens' rooms... I'm not judgey, it's purely because children tend to be a lot rougher with stuff when you can't see them. I'm happy to switch the systems on for them in the lounge, and change the game discs every five minutes... but these items are family things rather than owned by a particular family member. (That will probably change when they're a lot older, but then, any damage will be their problem not mine).

I think YANBU to expect an apology and even an offer of at least contributing towards the cost of repair/replacement...

Hindsight is a wonderful thing!

YellowAndGreenAndRedAndBlue · 13/02/2013 19:54

Sometimes it is a good idea to have a downstairs only rule for visiting kids. I would say age 3&4 is very young to be unsupervised with an expensive item like that if they are not used to it.

YANBU to be annoyed that your friend was so unapologetic, I would have definitely said sorry!

frustratedworkingmum · 13/02/2013 19:55

YANBU - i would be mortified if my DD broke something belonging to another child, and i would hope to be able to pay for a replacement but actually, right at this moment in time i couldnt afford to :( So would be very awkward - i really don't like children "going upstairs" though and don't allow it as they always tend to trash the bedroom. Its like they feel the need to play with EVERY single toy dd has so i just dont allow it anymore. because im a grumpy old bint

KobayashiMaru · 13/02/2013 19:56

A 3 year old and 2 4year olds, with pricy computer consoles, unsupervised on a different floor to adults?
Sorry but thats your fault as much as it is hers. She should have responded better, but what were you thinking?

ReluctantMother · 13/02/2013 19:57

I agree with kobay ^

maddening · 13/02/2013 20:08

She vouched for her children when yoh questioned it and they broke the wii - she should replace it - she could take the old one to see if she can get it fixed and keep it if she likes but as it's so new I would expect a new replacement.

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mrsjrob · 13/02/2013 21:20

I know it was my fault for not removing it, tbh I didn't think about it,my friend couldn't afford to replace it and my brother is quite good at fixing things so hopefully he will sort it out.i would've been a bit more apologetic,dh thinks we should just move on and ask her to let us know if she's going to pop round in future but I am still annoyed at her text.

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MammaTJ · 13/02/2013 21:26

One of my dearest friends came to visit the other day, planned and very much looked forward to, but her boys are wrecking machines at age 6 and 5.

They asked, and my own DC asked if they could go upstairs and I said no each time they repeatedly asked, being honest and telling them the reason why.

One of her sons had climbed on to my DDs little plastic vanity table and broken it. It had to be thrown out. Not an expensive item but still annoying. It will not happen again. My friend did apologise when I told her and offered to replace it but I wouldn't let her.

We had also hidden my DCs tablets and nintendo DSs. We had a quick coffee then all got wellies and coats on and went to the park in the rain.

I hope your brother does manage to fix it for you.

babiesinslingsgetcoveredinfood · 13/02/2013 21:35

YANBU

My friend popped in with her dd4 & ds6 the other morning. We were drinking tea in the kitchen when her ds came out wheeling her dd in my dd (3) toy pram. She spotted it & said oh dd don't be silly, out you get. Her dd (who is MASSIVE for her age btw) just sat there, friend rolled her eyes & carried on chatting. I had to get up & lift her dd out myself. Friend actually went 'ooh, OCD!'

I put her straight, it is dds favourite toy, from my mum & was stupidly expensive. Dd takes great care of it. I made it clear that if it broke she'd have to pay. I was so clear as it was not the first time. It's pretty much one broken toy per visit with them & yes, they are banned from upstairs as I caught her dd standing on top of dds doll house, when she said she was going to the loo!

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