To not want to be compared with my SIL's all the time

[Tailtwister]

Both my MIL and DM both do this. If I have a rule or a way of doing things, it immediately has to be compared to my SIL's. This morning it was a comment about how I don't like the TV on when the children are eating. I said it because my DM switches it on at mealtimes in her house and I wanted to pre-empt her doing it here (she's staying). Straight away she starts going on about my SIL having it on in her house over breakfast for XYZ reasons. I don't really care tbh. Nobody needs to justify what they do in their own house with their own child. That is their own business.

I NEVER criticise my SIL's, I think they are excellent mothers (if my opinion even matters!). However, every move I make seems to have to be counteracted with what they do and I'm sick of it. I've tried saying 'oh that's nice' or similar, but it just goes on and on.

Any advice to get them to stop?

They are probably doing the same to your SILs about you. My grandmother use to do this with me and my cousin, it was only after her funeral did my cousin and I have a chat and reliese it.

My Mil tells my DH that his brother calls her every morning on his way to work for a quick chat. Turned out to be absolute bollocks and he was getting a similar story...
I would simply say "My house, my rules and you are v welcome to watch tv in the living room while the kids eat if there is something you would like to watch" is a firm tone of voice. She's either just crap at conversation so makes observations about what other people do, or she's just a pita. Have a giggle about it with your SIL's and let it wash over you. Life's too short to get irritated by this sort of crap.

I'm going to state the obvivious here so apologies if it's something you've already tried.

Have you actually looked either MIL or DM in the eye and said firmly 'please don't compare me to SIL - I've had enough if it.' . Sometimes I think people let their thoughts out through their months before they've really thought about what they are going to say.

Certainly letting your irritation fester away isn't good - don't let the comments go unchallenged