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AIBU?

to be really, REALLY fucking angry.

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HarrySnotter · 12/02/2013 20:46

DD is 6. Was very quiet when I picked her up from after school club (at 5.30pm), unusually so but I kind of worried that she was coming down with something so after the initial 'are you feeling ok' I kind of left her to it and didn't question her too much.

Ran the bath, gave her a quick cuddle as she was getting undressed and she winced, actually winced, then started crying. I got her undressed and she had blood on her shirt at the back. Her shirt was actually sticking to her back. Then it all came out - one of the girls at school was poking her with a stick and was lifting up her coat and cardigan and scraping it down her back. I asked her if she told anyone and she said that the playground supervisor saw it and told her to stop crying and that she was acting like a baby.

Her back is scratched to absolute fuck and she was sobbing as I was trying to clean it for her. I am beyond mad. The issue with the child is one I shall bring up with her teacher but I am absolutely fucking furious at the playground supervisor.

How do I handle this so that I don't get a 'oh sorry about that' response. I'm so angry that she spend the whole afternoon sore and upset and she didn't want to tell her teacher because 'Mrs X said she was being a baby'.

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skullcandy · 14/02/2013 10:28

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AnnieLobeseder · 14/02/2013 10:34

Just read this - good grief, I've have been just as livid as you. What was the school's response? Hope your DD is feeling better.

armagh · 14/02/2013 11:58

I hope your dd is feeling better and you got some satisfaction from the Head teacher and she was as upset as Mumsnetters re treatment of your dd and has set in train investigation of the appalling incident

lindsay321 · 14/02/2013 22:25

Another one just checking everything is ok!

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DoubleLifeIsALifeHalved · 15/02/2013 10:33

Awful. Hope the school are now dealing with it properly.

cuteboots · 15/02/2013 12:45

God this is just awful and I hope it all gets sorted out for you.

Lollybrolly · 15/02/2013 12:52

Any news OP? How is your daughter now? And what did the school say?

lljkk · 15/02/2013 13:00

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TattyDevine · 15/02/2013 16:51

Cripes

I am a playground supervisor (recently became one, long story, but here I am!) and this astounds me.

Your school may be very different to ours; ours is a fairly small village school and we have reasonable ratios, so its unfathomable to me that something like this would happen where I am. Even a skipping rope flapped in the wrong direction catches our eyes, though we don't like to jump them on every little thing either, but we keep an eye out.

Its awful to think of a chid being told they were being a baby; it would not happen in those circs or any other in our school, though I am imagining the playground supervisor not knowing what damage had been done (which in itself is bad, however there are safeguarding issues surrounding checking under a child's shirt) and at age 6 it is still possible that someone could be quoted out of context but of course that can happen at any age and I'm not saying I think it was the case in this scenario...

I would see the head teacher and take it from there. The mid-day assistants will be questioned, not just one but probably all of them, there may be witnesses as to what happened, and some things may come to light, but if not, the issue has been raised and you can take it from there...

Hope your DD is okay!

Remotecontrolduck · 15/02/2013 17:18

Wow, nice to see the supervisor was so caring there!! Victim-blaming much?

Hope she's alright now OP, what a bitch. She should be sacked for showing such a lack of compassion and common sense.

HarrySnotter · 15/02/2013 20:49

To update.

Took DD to doc on Wed morning and he was horrified. He cleaned her back up again and gave me some anti b cream in case it became infected (thankfully it hasn't). So off I went to the school and I have to say that the headmistress was just wonderful. I didn't take DD in with me, I just showed her the photos as I didn't want to embarrass DD or have her dwell on it any more than necessary and the headmistress really was pretty gobsmacked to be honest. She couldn't have been more apologetic and she looked really pretty angry by the time I left. I surprised myself by staying quite calm, then I messed it up by bursting into tears but I was so tired as I was so upset I didn't really sleep.

Headteacher promised to investigate and was as good as her word. DH and I were called back to school yesterday for another meeting with her and the lunchtime supervisor who started off being rather defensive and aggressive until she saw the photographs, then was really quite shaken. She has been given a written warning and is being sent on an advanced safeguarding course.

The little girl who caused the injuried denied it completely and blamed another child but unfortunately for her, the child she blamed was on a different sitting for lunch so she kind of got caught out lying. Today DD had an apology from both the little girl and the lunchtime supervisor (who also came over to me in the playground and apologised too) and the headteacher has assured me that they will be keeping an extra eye out to ensure nothing like this happens again.

On another note the kindness and support on this thread since I started it has been just wonderful and you have all been so kind. One mumsnetter in particular (I'd love to say her name but don't want to embarrass her!) sent my DD a very special little friend in the post that she had made herself and it has made her so happy I feel quite tearful. Mumsnet rocks!

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ThreeBeeOneGee · 15/02/2013 20:53

Thank you for coming back to update us. I'm glad you were listened to by the doctor and headteacher.

BabyRoger · 15/02/2013 20:54

So glad you have a good conclusion after all the upset. Hope your DD's back is healing well.

MrsMushroom · 15/02/2013 20:55

Oh lovely! I'm so glad DD had a little cheer-me-up gift! and so glad they've dealt with it all so well.

CoffeeandDunkingBiscuits · 15/02/2013 21:01

Thanks for updating. Glad the school took it so seriously. Hope your dd recovers soon.

Wallace · 15/02/2013 21:02

Lovely to hear a positive result :)

CheerfulYank · 15/02/2013 21:09

Oh OP I am so glad. I'm almost in tears of relief for you!

BlatantLies · 15/02/2013 21:11

That is a great outcome. It seems liked everybody has done the right thing. It will make it easier for you to all move on but not forget

fascicle · 15/02/2013 21:12

So glad that the headteacher was so responsive, and appropriate actions have been taken and apologies made. Sounds like you dealt with the matter brilliantly. Hope your DD is feeling better.

diddl · 15/02/2013 21:13

Well that´s sounding OK.

IAmLouisWalsh · 15/02/2013 21:14

Glad it was all worked out.

Did the lunchtime supervisor see the girl doing it, or just DD afterwards?

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NorksAreMessy · 15/02/2013 21:16

Thank you for the update. I am so glad that the school has taken this seriously and that in itself will help your DD to know that if she asks for help it will (even belatedly) come.

As for mumsnet, we are always here to listen and support you.
I love mumsnet :)

YouTheCat · 15/02/2013 21:20

What a great ending. I'm so glad the HT took it all seriously.

Stixswhichtwizzle · 15/02/2013 21:22

Thanks for updating OP and I'm glad the HT acted appropriately and that your DD is ok.

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