DD is 6. Was very quiet when I picked her up from after school club (at 5.30pm), unusually so but I kind of worried that she was coming down with something so after the initial 'are you feeling ok' I kind of left her to it and didn't question her too much.
Ran the bath, gave her a quick cuddle as she was getting undressed and she winced, actually winced, then started crying. I got her undressed and she had blood on her shirt at the back. Her shirt was actually sticking to her back. Then it all came out - one of the girls at school was poking her with a stick and was lifting up her coat and cardigan and scraping it down her back. I asked her if she told anyone and she said that the playground supervisor saw it and told her to stop crying and that she was acting like a baby.
Her back is scratched to absolute fuck and she was sobbing as I was trying to clean it for her. I am beyond mad. The issue with the child is one I shall bring up with her teacher but I am absolutely fucking furious at the playground supervisor.
How do I handle this so that I don't get a 'oh sorry about that' response. I'm so angry that she spend the whole afternoon sore and upset and she didn't want to tell her teacher because 'Mrs X said she was being a baby'.
AIBU?
to be really, REALLY fucking angry.
HarrySnotter · 12/02/2013 20:46
A similar thing happened to my DS1 when he was in Y4. It was a stick too, plus a football being used to bash his spine. He had scratches and bruises all down his back. :( The 'supervisor' similarly told him to 'stop fussing'. 
I made an appointment with the head. I stayed calm. I made the point that I was trying to ensure that my (boisterous) DS did not fight or hit, but rather told an adult when he needed help sorting a playground conflict - and that this was a massive breach of trust. I said there were obviously serious staff training issues that needed addressing. I cited 'duty of care'; I didn't cite 'safeguarding', since this was ten years ago, but I would do today. I asked to see the anti-bullying policy, but it was not written; I told her she needed to make that a priority. I told her that if she did not deal with the supervisor's obvious breach of her duty of care and lack of understanding, I would involve the LA.
The anti-bullying policy got drafted within a few weeks (but not finished). The lunchtime supervisors all had staff training.
Watch out for the general culture in your DD's school. In my son's school, it turned out this incident actually signalled a wider problem, that didn't really get resolved until that head retired.
Oh yes, and following your meeting, write formally to the head, recording what you discussed and what she agreed to do. My son's school had a policy of only taking action on written complaints, not spoken ones... And I understand many schools do the same. 
Don't know if anyone has suggested this, but I would get her to the GP first thing this morning, espeicially considering her diabetes and increased risk of infection. Tetanus needs to be checked as well.
for you and your dd.
Nothing useful to add-but I would be incandescent tbh.
So the twatty PS didn´t even take the stick away or try to separate them??
And so what if she was "being a baby" -at 6yrs old-where was the duty of care/help to get her away from a bully?
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How is dd thisorning Harry? I hope you both managed to sleep.
I couldn,t stop thinking about you both.
I gave my dd an extra hug when I dropped her off this morning.
I,ll be back to see how things have gone.
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