What happened to the thread about the 16 no 17yo dd who was ungrateful?

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I was reading it this morning. The op was being given a huge flaming, did it all go horribly wrong?

People are strange about teenagers on MN in general.

They are. Read loads of threads about scary teenagers walking in groups etc by mothers of toddlers. Teenagers are not the antichrist.

There was more than one poster on that thread who agreed with the OP.

The people who agreed must not have a 16 year old kid, and know that they are still very long, or have completely forgotten what it was like to be that age.

Or they are heartless gits.

I'll go with the they are heartless gits.

Still very long? Young.

DD is 6 foot though so she is long as well.

Yes heartless gits or in a special category 'spouts shit on MN they don't really mean'

My DS is quite long

There's a thread at the moment full of 'spouting shit for the sake of it'

I assumed the poster talking about treating all over-12s with contempt was being sarcastic and spoofing the meanness of the OP.

No, I don't think so, she commented further down the thread saying that her birthdays as a teen weren't very special, £20 in an envelope or something. She wasn't joking imo.

There was a teen on here last night, asking how to cope with his/her terrible drug taking father. It was very sad reading and I hope it wasn't a bridge dweller.

Getorf, I was shocked by that post as well

Some people are very hard on teenagers

Yes, it's one thing I have really noticed in recent years, that absolute lack of understanding for teens. Get them to cook for themselves, kick them out if they don't toe the line, don't think they are entitled to any help post 16, 'I had a job at that age' crap.

I had a job and a flat at 16, last thing I want for my dd. They still need and deserve looking after and imo need more care and attention than 10 year olds sometimes.

It is true, the amount of times I read on here, kick them out, stop doing their washing etc makes me

I would hate to think that these people would really kick out their kids.

But god knows. You hear horrible stories, some of dd's friends from school had been slung out after rows etc. Poor bloody kids.

Yes I agree GetOrf and usual.
I luffs my teen and do stuff for him as he does for me, we're a unit.
It's the ones who stop doing stuff for them that'll be the ones with the problem teens in the future.
I think the poster that we're talking about is a he not a she BTW.

Oh is it a bloke?

One to add to the list of weirdy blokes on mumsnet, then.

My sister was kicked out at 16 and lived in a YMCA. My brother was kicked out at 15.

I can't imagine suddenly withdrawing love and nurture from my boys because they hit a certain age. But it is what some people seem to do

I worked with teen girls when I was younger. It used to scare me that they looked so "together" but were incredibly emotionally fragile. Everything is so intense at that age. It actually upsets me more to think of a 17yo feeling sad on a birthday than a toddler.

I'm glad it was a troll. Such a depressing thread.

I agree. A toddler wouldn't really notice that they didn't have any presents or whatever. But a 17 would understand perfectly that they weren't cared for or thought about.

I wouldn't want my dd to feel so bereft. She's still my baby anyway. Hopefully she will still come on sit on my lap for a cuddle when she's 43.

My boys regularly tell me "We will still be your babies when we have got bushy beards won't we Mummy"

They will be

DD is taller than me now. Still doesn't stop her creeping up for a cuddle. And not just when she wants to 'borrow' a tenner.

I still cuddle my girls and they are 28 and 33

she sounds luvly

Having witnessed the OUTRAGE when some Y7s had the audacity to use the skate ramp thingy for skateboarding on, thus EXCLUDING the smaller children to the large and very nicely equipped play area, they don't even have to have reached their teens to become the devil incarnate round my way.

It's baffling.

The outraged parents are utter twats btw, case you hadn't guessed. And their children are wusses.

I miss dd. She has gone to Devon for a few days at half term. So I am getting all soppy in her absence. When she comes back I will start grumbling on MN again about the draped towels and the missing teaspoons.