To wonder why anyone continues to listen to THAT friend!

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You know the one I mean, we've all got one.

X: I'm not talking to Y anymore

Nope: Why not?

X: She said the jumper I bought her for Christmas was horrible and made her look like shit.

Nope: How rude!

X: I know! I'm so pissed off.

Nope: I can't believe she said that to you?!

X: Well, I didn't actually hear her say it. It was Z that told me.

Nope: >Facepalm<

Ofcourse Z told you! Z always tells you! Z is not a real friend! Z is a cunt! ARGHHHHHH!

As you were.

Hahaha yep I have one of THOSE friends too. Well not a friend really but our DD's are best friends so I tolerate her but I don't listen to a word she says. She is the type that will home in on any fallouts people have, and pretend to 'side' with each party when in reality she is telling them both what the other one said. Oh and she'll say 'I'm not getting involved!'

I used to work with someone like this. He was a complete ASSHOLE but everybody loved him because he would act like your best friend whilst secretly playing everyone off against each other ( think management vs lowly downtrodden workers) in his quest to get to the top. He was fucking horrible and the route of all disputes could be traced back to him, yet he was STILL listened to time and time again.

I had that friend, her behaviour got worse over the years because everyone put up with her. I cut her out eventually and am so much happier without the bullshit and the drama she created.

They're called frenemies aren't they?

I often refer to the one I know as my Frenemy, redexpat. It's a good term to use

Argh. YANBU to wonder why anyone listens to tHAT friend. Why are they always so seemingly popular? WHY???

I was taught to stay away from toxic substances, but toxic friends seem to attract people.... not all of the people they attract are idiots, or spineless, or have self confidence issues, so I don't get it. At all.

I will probably brood over one particularly toxic person for the rest of the morning, and the rather nice people I simply cannot be around anymore becase they can't break away from her. Grrr.

I have one of 'those' friends too - well, she DD's friend's mum and is in our circle of friends

She is so bitchy and a total gossip. I just don't engage with her when she's bitching/gossiping. She's actually quite a nice lady when you talk to her about normal stuff, but I can't bear the bitching.

Absolutely Aldiwhore it's such an easy thing to get wound up about but you just can't help it!
I think everyone has been sucked in by people like this but when you realise it's like you're part of some massive conspiracy and noone can see it but you

freddifrog, I have the same issue; the woman I know is DD's friend's mum. I have noticed lots of mums at the school do keep her at arm's length but our DD's are joined at the hip and I end up having to have far more involvement with her than others do. She is poison