Someone who I thought was a good friend is getting married.
We've been invited to the country hotel child free wedding. They've thoughtfully booked all the cheaper rooms in the hotel for specific named guests so if we wanted to stay it would be fairly expensive.
The hen night is looking like a £££ extravaganza a fair distance from home and involving things I'm not that bothered about doing. This friend was my bm but she didn't come to my hen as she said couldn't afford it because she had already planned a trip to where we were going a couple of weeks after the hen.
I can afford it but I don't want to spend so much on a hen and wedding as I can think of other things I'd rather spend the money on. I know it's her wedding and hen and she can do what she likes but Aibu for not wanting to go along with it? I feel bad I can't just be easy going about it, but I feel it's just too much commitment from me being asked (time and money). Should I tell her how I really feel or make up excuses? We will go to the wedding but we may not stay all day or overnight (as they have said they would like everyone to do) as it depends on what childcare we can arrange.