If every time your children want you to join in their games, you get them to join in your chores, then it amazing how low a profile they then keep.
four year olds are just the right hight to scrub down the fronts of kitchen cupboards use ecover washing up liquid then you know it's safe, be fussy about standards,
if the seven year old mops the floor the four year old can use an old towel to dry,
and seven year olds are very good at carrying washing upstairs and putting it on the right beds four year olds are just the right hight to pull items out of the washing machine.
the Amish think we are very cruel, because we don't teach our children the jobs in life until later, toddlers start off with having to find twigs and keep the kindling baskets full, it consider a great honour to be trusted to do a job,
mine earn the right to jobs, so they do them with pride, and they know different, they are great cooks, and are able to do most things without supervision, resentment, or reminders.
but in this house you keep yourself busy or someone will allocate you tasks.