To think that most of the time AIBU posts are just wanting confirmation and not really checking reasonableness?

[Ghostie]

Confirm or deny?

Yanbu. Some people just want everyone to agree. Pisses me tbh. If you are convinced you ate being reasonable why post?

But the best one has to be the posters who believe everyone thinks they are bu because they haven't understood properly.

I said the same the otehr night.

90% of threads are righteous indignation where people want affirmation their unreasonable beahviour is quite within boundaries.

Absolutely a confirm!

Confirm. YANBU.

Confirm. But must admit I am one of the guilty ones.

Well people generally think they are right so in the first instance they post then they are probably hoping for confirmation. Depending on the response some people are prepared are prepared to accept they are and others aren't. I think people are less likely to when they are attacked and then just go on the defensive and flounce :)

Some people really want to know and reflect on differing views and a range of feedback. Some just throw a toddler strop making me wonder why they asked in the first place.

Actually, most of the time they aren't even asking anything at all.

AIBU is the new chat.

They just want to chat but put it in the form of a question.

But yes, of those left over, 99% are totally convinced of their reasonableness and simply want agreement.

As evidenced by the sheer number who ask if they are unreasonable and when told yes, you are a bit, go apeshit.

HecateI totally agree, it's all gone topsy turvy as I think chat is the new AIBU

when I first joined I only ever dare AIBU on a rare occasion after
but now I am here more and more!

YANBU.

i agree hec

why do people do that? posting threads that are really and obviously not an AIBU at all?

Geekster I too think I have been guilty in the past top although never brave enough to chuck the old toys out of the pram! But that's my general feeling it can be a bit of a rant and at times just a bit self righteous?

It can be as you have described at times Ghostie and once again I'm guilty of what you have said, apart from throwing my toys out of the pram, if I didn't expect some comments telling me I had been the opposite of what I have asked then there wouldn't be much point in posting.

And I also think that if people are reading MN on a phone they go for
"active conversations" and AIBU is fast moving with catchy headings.

Or they are just shit stirring

It can be, but it can also be that a situation that has an 'obvious' correct response has become distorted in the mind of the poster and the reality check of AIBU acts as a refocus to clear the fog.

YABU. It's a forum, no one is here looking for a legally binding judgement.

I read recently a terrible sexist piece of advice... Women do not want to hear what you think, women want to hear what they think in a deeper voice and I couldn't agree more
I think the same applies to a lot of aibu!

I think AIBU has more traffic, so people phrase their question as an AIBU to get more responses - as you have done, actually!