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To not bother with Valentines Day?

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wibblyjelly · 08/02/2013 21:47

First one since DH and I have been married, but we both agree its commercial marketing, and we aren't going to buy cards etc for each other.

Aibu in thinking you don't need a special day to tell that special person that you love them?

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wibblyjelly · 08/02/2013 23:39

You're right Mrs V. We are made to feel that we have to buy things on these 'special days' when really a lot of them are just to make money for the card companies etc. If I could get away with not buying something for mother/fathers day, I wouldn't, but my DM would never forgive me! I guess it all depends on who the recipient is as to whether you feel you can broach the subject of 'shall we just not bother this year?'. In my case, DH is fine to have the conversation with. DM, on the other hand would result in the silent treatment for a week or 2 for daring to suggest it! Smile

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bedmonster · 08/02/2013 23:39

Ah I see, well I don't usually! I did get my mum a card last year as she had suffered a horrible health setback and we were very worried she wouldn't see another mothers day/birthday/christmas so were keen to celebrate everything.
We are quite a sociable family though, have dinners with alll of us together regularly, meet up for pub lunches, walks etc lots through the year, so I suppose we all know we are appreciated. :)

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wibblyjelly · 08/02/2013 23:43

Badgers, my excuse for having wine during the week is, as long as the day ends in Y, its OK Smile

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carabos · 09/02/2013 00:00

I don't know anyone over the age of majority who does bother with it.

exoticfruits · 09/02/2013 08:11

You can be spontaneous and have Valentines Day! It isn't 'either/or'.

glamourousgranny42 · 09/02/2013 08:34

YANBU. I don't do Valentines day anymore. When I was married we did cards etc but it was always such a chore. My childrens birthdays are either side and I was busy with those so valentines was the last thing I meeded. When we split up it was such a relief not to have to bother. When I met my new bloke I told I don't do valentines day and he's fine about it. We spoil each other at differnt times.

JambalayaCodfishPie · 09/02/2013 08:39

YANBU. It's a ridiculously over hyped expensive day. I love and appreciate my partner every day of the year - and he knows that. Grin

skullcandy · 09/02/2013 08:46

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catnipkitty · 09/02/2013 08:47

We don't bother with any commercial stuff... DH gets a homemade card and the kids like to get involved wth various heart-based arty crafty things!

Signet2012 · 09/02/2013 08:48

I think valentines day is a load of bollocks.

The first year we where together dp was asking which flowers I liked. I told him if it was for valentines day not to bother as I don't do romantic bollocks and I'd sooner not waste money.

On the day his work mate asked him what he had got me and he explained what I said and the whole office (all men) where shouting "it's a test its a test!! You have to buy her something it's a test!!!"
Grin

LifeIsBetterInFlipFlops · 09/02/2013 08:51

It's a good excuse for chocolate.

StarlightMcKenzie · 09/02/2013 08:54

We remember my late DF on valentines day. It's sad enough without being ripped off as well.

CauDyGeg · 09/02/2013 08:59

Well exdp dumped me and Dd last week so guess we won't be taking part this year Sad

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wibblyjelly · 09/02/2013 09:30

Starlight Sad
Cau so sorry to hear that. Hope you are holding up OK.

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exoticfruits · 09/02/2013 10:03

VD is for the non-parents and younger couples imho.

I hate this idea that once you have children you are too old!

Vinomcstephens · 09/02/2013 10:24

Ah, live and let live! DP and I have been together many years and we always buy each other a card - we don't bother with presents but will go out for a nice meal at some point. Some people think it's twee, some think it's an utter pile of shite - me, I enjoy it and will continue to do so Smile

Mrsrobertduvall · 09/02/2013 10:32

Don't bother here.
I don't do mother's day either.

Synical · 09/02/2013 20:27

Skinny....you made me smile! Not sure I was supposed to. However been there, but not any longer. Saturday night lying in bed, with laptop & choc hobnobs....Valentines Day, no thanks!

ledkr · 09/02/2013 20:34

We normally do a card and a nice dinner but I really can't be arsed either. We celebrate the day we met as our special day. Our anniversary is Xmas eve so we don't get time for that either.

TheCountessOlenska · 09/02/2013 20:45

DH always has to work it he's Cupid but we usually have a nice meal together at some other point in the week, and he sometimes gets me some flowers. I think cards are a bit strange if you live in the same house. We make a bigger thing of our wedding anniversary.

BambieO · 09/02/2013 20:51

I think it's nice to mark the day, it's all a load of guff granted but why not have a nice dinner and some quality time. We don't go out but we take it in turns each year to cook a nice meal and we do a card.

I know my DH loves me and vice versa so why not take any and every opportunity to show it Grin also echo the wine/chocolate theory!

Fair enough if you don't do it but its only a bit of fun really

DialsMavis · 09/02/2013 20:56

We have a nice meal and wine at home if DP isn't working and usually but not always do cards... No pressies or flowers or anything.

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