To think some mums are being very nasty about DDs birthday

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My DD will be six soon and will be having a party. I made some invitations for her to hand out in school and put in a lovely poem:

It's my birthday soon
Six I will be
I'd like you to come
and join the par-tee.

I have dolls, I have books,
I have crayons galore,
I have so much lego,
It covers the floor.

So when you are coming,
To my birthday bash,
Please don't bring presents
Just give me some cash.

Some of the mums have been very shirty with me at the school gates and a few have sent snooty notes saying their DCs won't be at the party.

AIBU to think some people are very rude and should be delighted and honoured that their children have been invited to share DD's special day.

Oh go on - link the other thread (or at least tell its title)

Maybe you should let old people come, OP? Old people are often more generous so you'll get more money!

A photograph of your DD on the beach for a thank you card is a genius idea.

I can't believe that the mums at the school gate are being nasty. They are rude, just ignore them and invite someone else!

You must ban old people from coming.

Stepemum I don't know how to do links but its called something like 'I detest poems looking for cash presents' and is still on page one of AIBU.

Other thread

Have you sent instructions to the parents of her three very best friends, to ensure they buy there dds matching dresses or them from Monsoon at £50.00 a pop that are nearly as nice as hers? Do not let them come in their own party dresses.

I don't think it counts as a TAAT, because naff poems asking for money for weddings are a perennial gripe, they are not restricted to any particular thread (I haven't even read the latest, because the title alone told me all I needed to know). FWIW I don't even mind giving cash as a gift, it's just the poems that make me stabby.

If my child had an invite such as this, no matter what effort when into the poem and however twee it may be, I would be really pissed off. Many people go to the pound shop for presents - so the cash would be £1 possibly £3 at a push.

You are very rude.

Is a genius idea. Then you can see who the most generous parents are & be better friends with them.
I bet some buggers will give a gift card.

We moved to a new school recently and had an invite with £please written on it, I actually thought it was a typo on the invite. But no, it's seems to be done quite a lot, not really my cup of tea, but it saves buying a pressie.

Apparently you give a pound per year, so a 6 year old gets £6 etc

Oh this is a great idea. Lots of helpful tips from other posters too.
May I also suggest that the event is held far enough away, at a most inconvenient time, so as to ensure that parents cannot drop off and leave children.
Please make sure that food and drinks are not included and are priced outrageously so that all involved are totally skint afterwards.
Yes to a dress code-obviously clothing that noone will alredy own.
Yes to a water theme without letting the guests know in advance.
Yes to insisting that everyone traipse outside regardless of the weather for something uninteresting that the host simply has to share.
Yes to opening all cards in the presence of guests so as to add maximum embarrasment to those scroungers who break the rules of your fabulous poem.

Wouldn't bother me. Would rather get the host something they actually want than yet another "thoughtfully chosen" toaster toy which they will receive at least three of...

Does anyone know the going rate of a £££ present these days?

Why do people put up stupid made up threads. It is just trolling and annoying. Have reported you, op .

Pendipidy - it's because they think it's funny. So do plenty of other people.
HTH

You know that story you were told about three people of varying ethnicities going to the pub Pendipidy? I think that may have been a lie . And when Tommy Cooper hurt himself walking into an iron bar and you were really sympathetic and everyone else laughed heartlessly? ANOTHER LIE.

Doing links is not hard.

It tell you how to do it just below the box that you type in.

pendipidy - because it doesn't have to be true to spark off an interesting discussion. And made up ops can often be very entertaining reading. I always thought it was fine to ask for cash as a wedding present (although I agree that the cheesy poems are really annoying) but this thread makes me think more deeply about my opinions in a lighthearted way. I don't see why that's a problem. Think I'd only be upset if I discovered a serious sounding 'my dp is a tosser' type thread was made up. X

someone I vaguely know was given a surprise party by their relative. On the invite they said that people should not by presents but that they would like a £15 donation towards giving her a holiday. Needless to say, I didn't go. Such a cheek!

*buy!

ur party, ur rules OP.
Could you not have a Venture photo session for DD at the party though, then your guests will get the joy of watching. You could offer them a discounted rate to buy the pictures.

An invite like that would be an excellent chance to raid the change jar. A big bag of 2pence pieces and a colouring book and crayons for the birthday girl

I've just got a horrible reply back from one of the mums:

Thanks for your invite
Demanding our brass.
I found it quite rude,
And I found it quite crass.

So I'm writing to say
You can just go to heck.
You've enough brass already,
around your hard neck.

I mean, really!