to report someone for forgetting my name?

[ChildrenInACandyShop]

Ok this might seem like an overreaction but -

I am doing a part time college course, I have four different teachers. On a Friday we have someone who teaches us for 3.5 hours hours. He has been teaching us since the September.

We are a very small class (average 12).

And he keeps getting my name wrong, despite me correcting him every single time and even others shouting out my name when he says it wrong.

It's just getting embarrassing now as everyone starts to laugh. He also has no problem remembering anyone elses name in the class.

When I say report I mean mention it to my tutor.

I think it would be going a bit far to report it. I would turn up to the class wearing a big sparkly badge with my name printed very clearly, and point to it when he gets it wrong. Then they will be laughing at him rather than you!

It is rude and discourteous. But I wouldn't report it.

I'd have a private word with him and explain that it's bothering you.

Does he think it's funny? Is he doing it on purpose?

Definitely an overreaction, sometimes it can be hard when you get something in your head to change it mutters darkly under ones breath about colleague who gets my name wrong daily despite working with me daily for 2 years

How rude of him. I'd go for the badge option

Mention it to him privately.

It is possible there is an innocuous reason - maybe you look very like someone he knows with a different name.

It is a bit unprofessional, but what I would find really dodgy is him letting everyone else laugh. Forgetting a name isn't a big issue but it shouldn't be funny for the rest of the class.

I'd go passive aggressive and not answer to the name he calls you. When he says something say "but my name is .....I didn't realise you we're talking to me"
If you get written feedback in the same name return it as it can't be for you.
You could call him by the wrong name .....again when he says something say "oh I thought we just called each other any old name as you always call me X and I'm called Y"

IMO getting a persons name wrong (after you have been corrected) is just bloody rude. Your name is part of who you are and that should be reflected.

Is your name or background from a different culture? If so he could genuinely struggle to pronounce it and may be Anglicising it (not acceptable unless you are happy). If this is the case (and I am wildly surmising) maybe a quiet word and a reminder about respect, equality and diversity might do the trick

Reflected should say respected - sorry.

Also meant to say this issue is taken very seriously where I work. A colleague insisted on mispronouncing a Polish surname incorrectly, making jokes that it sounded like "wacky baccy" and referred to the Polish colleague (behind her back) as Mrs Wacky Baccy. Complaints were made and colleague was reprimanded for his remarks . He thinks this was an over reaction

Call him "John."
Even if his name is Nathaniel or Tony, just call him "John." Hell, call him "Ptolemy." If he questions is, say something like "I thought we were just using our favourite names?"

YANBU for being irritated though. Drives me mental when people get my name wrong.

I think reporting is going too far - as @hatgirl says, when you've remembered something wrong it can be hard to change it.

I can never remember by OHs birthday, because her first birthday after we met her age was 1 different from her birthday (e.g. she was 27, birthday was 28th) and I got it in to my head that it was 1 different the other way (she was 27, birthday was 26th) Even now, 7 years later, I have to think twice to remember which date is actually her birthday.

Still annoying though. I'd do the badge, and just call him Dave all the time.

If he teaches a lot of classes, he may easily get mixed up,or even worse, have the wrong name fixed in his head (you know, like you do if your friend goes out with Brian for years then you always think of them as Sarah and Brian and then you can't swap it to Pete when she gets a new boyfriend).

I think it's not a big deal, I have contact with over 100 students a week, and don't remember all the names at all. But, the big difference is I try not to use them! I know I can't remember them all and probably know about half certainly and half not, so I don't address them by name.

If it really bothers you, have a quiet word, or before he addresses you, say 'It's Children here' and make a joke of it.

Reporting it will probably make him remember you, but not necessarily with the right name, if he hasn't learnt it by now (the alternative is he's deliberately misnaming you and I think that extremely unlikely).

And, many of my students mispronounce my name or don't address me as Dr or use Professor incorrectly, I am really not fussed about this and would never bring it up, especially as many of them have english as a foreign language and may find norms/pronounciation different, although many British students also make mistakes (even though my name is on all documents I produce).

A little kindness and acceptance go a long way in a teaching environment.

If he is just being stupid or forgetful then perhaps have a word with him after the class and say that your name is X and you'd appreciate him using the correct name. Being generous it could be one of those things where he's done it wrong so many times he can't remember which names is correct.

Or do you think he is being racist? We had a very racist RE teacher at school who used to deliberately mispronounce any not-traditional-British names. She was South African and spoke wistfully about the apartheid

write on a piece of paper 'my name is childreninacandyshop'

hand it to him at the start of every lesson

Completely wrong as in a different name or just wrong as in pronunciation?

I get called Sarah and Claire - My name is neither and not even similar. It's the same people who do it every time. They know i'm called something else. I answer them, they are not doing it on purpose they just can't help it!

However my real name can be shortened - think Catherine, Cath. I always go by my full name. I don't answer people who call me the shortened version.

If a lecturer continued to use a shortened version of my name depsite me telling them otherwise I'd get a proper arse on and would report them!

are you sure he's not doing it on purpose?

It could be anything from he's just got a horribly embarrassing block on your name. I've done it. There are people who I just CANNOT keep their name in my head. It's awful.
It could be he now thinks it's some sort of running joke
Maybe he fancies you and this is the next best thing to pulling your pigtails
Perhaps it's some sort of nasty thing. For some weird reason.

Could be anything.

Perhaps it would be best to speak to him and to ask him why he has such trouble remembering your name and suggesting that perhaps he jots it down on a bit of paper, to help him until he learns it.

'Everyone starts laughing' isn't actually doing you any favours and is probably reinforcing his block. Are these adults?

If your name is unusual and / or difficult to pronounce then have a friendly word with him about it if it bothers you.

Why would he be doing it deliberately?

It's not like a primary class where you have the same children day in day out for a year, he might have lots of other students.

I think reporting for things like this is utterly trivial. It's a human mistake to sometimes forget/mistake names (unless you really believe it is malicious, and why would it be). Just do as others have suggested, either correct it again or give him a piece of paper with it on.

I have called students the wrong name, then said oh sorry once I realised. They are usually charming and understanding.

Why do people believe 'reporting' to authority is the correct way to deal with incredibly trivial but slightly annoying things, do you not think the course leaders have anything better to do than spend an hour on an email correspondence to sort out a 'complaint' about being called the wrong name (if you want to draw attention to yourself, by the way, this would be an excellent way to go about it).

Oh please be kind to him! This has happened to me occasionally over the years. I have had mental blocks about a certain students name. I am very careful though to make a joke about it, at my expense and not the student's.
If he can take a joke,could you put a piece of card with your name on it in front of you?

I would turn up to lectures in a hat with my name on....that or get HIS name wrong. If he's Alan, call him Andrew...if he's John call him joe...make up a different name every time.

I'm a teacher, sometimes you have a complete mental block on someone's name, especially if you only see them once a week (which is very rarely when you teach hundreds of students). Reporting him for being human would be ridiculous. Take it in good humour and wear a badge.
Unless you think it's deliberate, which it probably isn't, in which case have a word with him.

Are you sure that the rest of the class aren't laughing at him (for being an inept fool who can't remember your name)? It can be really, really hard to remember students' names. I generally try to avoid using names at all with my students because I just cannot remember anyone's name (unless they're a complete bloody nightmare!).

If it bothers you, speak to him informally but don't 'report' him. And stick on a name badge.

My primary teachers generally tended to call my by my (younger) sister's name. All the way through. No idea why. My mother often calls me my sister's name. More often than she uses my actual name.

You would be going too far to report it, however, do make sure that the teacher is not confusing you with someone else. DS1 had this. He was called "Robbie" instead of "Robert" in his lessons (not his name, but that kind of thing) by a particular teacher. Teacher told me at parents' evening (having already been corrected a couple of times by me that his name was Robert, not Robbie) that Robbie had done some really bad things. I asked if he was sure as, although DS1 was not the best behaved at that time, the things that he was being accused of doing were too covert and nasty for him. Turns out teacher had him mixed up with another "Robert" in the class, who was called "Robbie". Could have had very bad consequences and I've never been sure that the reports were for DS1 and not the other "Robert" and also that the teacher had not been badmouthing him in the staffroom (and carrying on his dislike of DS1 to DS2 who is completely different altogether - well-behaved, does homework on time, etc etc).